[Christa225]

I was just wondering how everyone handles when your friends and family tell you they are pg. It seems like all of the closest people to me r pg or just had a baby and because we r so close I am a big part in there lives. I mean i am definitely excited for them and want to.be there just sometimes it.gets overwhelming I guess. Just a different lind of question.

[Sapphera]

I am usually very genuinely happy for them.

However, that doesn't stop me from going home and having a good cry. Or some feelings of jealousy.

I have 3 preg friends, 2 that just had babies and cousins that are trying for more (that are younger than me). It's hard some days, easy others.

But still happy for them.

[Christa225]

That's exactly how I feel. Glad to know its a normal feeling :-)

[Coley]

It's a really good question and one that just about all of us have had to face at one point or another. A girl I know just had her little boy last week and I was the one who got her all set up with temping, charting, OPKs, etc... The very next month, she was pg. Ouch, right?

The very best advice I can give you is to be true to your feelings. If there are days when you just can't do it, that's okay! You don't have to... and those who love you will have to learn to respect that.

Being happy for someone else doesn't negate your right to feel sad for you. This isn't to say that you can dissolve into a pile of Poor Me forever... but if you need to step back from things, that's okay.

I also think it's a good idea to let those people know some of the difficulty you're having. How much detail you choose to share with whom is up to you... But you can't expect people to be sensitive to something they aren't even aware of.

Trust me, and I've been at this long enough to know, just like you have downs, you'll have ups too. The low points are only momentary and will pass, allowing you to feel like "you" again...

I hope that helps...

[kbpeanut]

Couldn't have said it better. My brother and SIL just had their first baby in November. While I love my niece to pieces, it's rough at times. Hang in there!

[blueeyes25s]

Nikki said it perfectly. Eventually you will find ways to cope with it, for me it just takes time to accept each new pregnancy. My sister just had a baby in Oct and she never wanted kids but I try to spend as much time with him because I love him to pieces and I would not be happy with myself if I missed out on any opportunities to watch him grow up because I am having a hard time getting pregnant (although it is hard from time to time). I also think its nice to get some baby time in . Just hang in there, you will get though it and once you get your sticky bean you will realize it was worth the wait.

[Belita]

Nikki did say it perfectly.

[Kissthegirl]

Oh girl, I totally feel this question. I am truly happy for them when they tell me. Like Nikki mentioned above, I have been at this for a while too, and I have been the friend to set my friend up with a FF site and tell her about the ropes, then the first month off BC after 15 years she gets prego. Back in August, I counted up all my friends that I knew who were PG - whether it is church, work, or from college that I actually hung out with and the count came to 23.

23.

Since then, loads more have graduated to the pregnant status. My best friend, my boss at work, my co-worker's wife, my best girl friend at work (the one I taught the FF site to, temping, etc.) and a couple others. So I have definitely felt it.

But the truth is, that yeah even though it stings every month that I get a BFN, and yes I have felt like I was actually being tested, I am truly happy for my friends and their sweet journey in their lives right now. Right now is their time, not mine... and when it turns to my time... well, that's a lot of girls who are getting invited to my baby shower, dang it.
But seriously, I understand how hard it is, and in the end I take comfort in knowing that it's going to eventually happen, and every month I just get closer.

[Cait&AngelAbove]

It can definately be difficult. I have struggled a lot with this. I do what is best for me. It is best to protect yourself.