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Yes! My best friend and I had sort of a similar conversation just the other day. She was talking about how all of our friends are pregnant and said, "you better not get pregnant anytime soon!" but I wasn't going to let her make me feel bad about what DH and I want. She kept going on & on about how we need to enjoy each other before we have a little snotty nosed leech waking us up all hours of the night crying and pooping...(but she was also very against me getting married) So I just let her know that we talked through it and this is what we want and that I really want her to be excited for us. I assured her it's not going to change anything between us and I won't ask her to babysit ;-) but it is hard on a friendship when one desperately wants a baby and the other has the view that all they do is eat, sleep, poop & cry.. But after I told her that we've started trying and she could tell how excited I am she wanted to know if she could start shopping for the baby & I'm not even pg yet! Haha. But the bottom line is if she is your friend she will be happy for you just because you're excited, even if she doesn't agree with it.
I'm sorry you have a friend like that.
I have people in my life who are not supportive. Mine is my sister. She knows I want children. She tells me all the time that I better not get pregnant, um, yeah, she's younger than me and I don't her telling me what to do. Basically she will get upset because I will stop going out to clubs with her, I don't really go out anymore anyway, I'm older and over the drinking and clubbing. But, her knowing I want children she always makes comments like: "you're too young" (I'm 26) "You're life will be over" Kids are life suckers who will ruin you're life" "I'm not ready for my life to end, can't believe you are" (She says once you have kids you're basically dead and you're life is over). When I mention to her about kids, and say to her "you would wanna come over and hang out with your niece/nephew" Her response "I'm not coming all the way to your house to see them, you will have to bring them to me" She knows I want kids, I haven't told her I'm trying to get pregnant. When it happens she will be so mad and may stop talking to me for a bit. I have to stop worrying about her, I don't care if she gets mad, not going to stop me from having a baby.
I thought I was pregnant last month and told my best friend I might be her response "I won't be happy if you're pregnant because I'll never see you again"
I can't stand people being upset for selfish reasons about me having kids. I have no one besides my fiance to support me. I'm glad I found this board, so I have other, supportive women to talk to.
The one close friend I have is very supportive, but I have an issue with not having a lot of friends. My friend that I do have, is supportive in the "I'm so happy for you guys" kinda way, but she's so involved in her partying lifestyle and such that she doesn't really understand everything. Which is fine. But she does sometimes say things that make me feel sad...she'll tell me everything she's doing to avoid pregnancy, she tells me that she wants to have fun and live her life without having to care about anyone else. She makes fun of me for being so excited and just because I'm super maternal just in general. She always cracks jokes, or says things to other people. I try and tell her, we don't want everyone to know we are ttc but she doesn't understand that it's a big deal to us. I guess that's really why I joined here....to make a little support group and find people who understand.
All of my friends are supportive... Just not very helpful. They just don't get it. Most of the got pregnant on accident when they were young and they don't understand actually wanting to be pregnant. And my best friend doesn't want children... And she is the most supportive of them all!!