[becca4steven]

hello everyone

i am new to this website. i had a misscarried in nov and it did affect me but now it makes me want a baby even more!!! me and my husband have been trying ever since really hard and it feels like i am not getting any where. i know it take time!!! every since i had my misscarried some of my period have not been on time i normally 28 to 30 but last month i was a week and 5 day over!! how can i stop thinking about getting pregnant every month when my period is due? if anyone have been through the same thing or have got help it would be very helpfully.

[Coley]

Hi, I'm Nikki...

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I've known many girls during my time TTC who have gone through losses and it's a very difficult thing. My heart goes out to you. I also know that everyone's body is different in how long it takes to rebound fully from a loss.

TTC can be exciting and frustrating at the same time... Unfortunately, there's no one thing I can tell you to help you take your mind off of it. Some people pray, some exercise, some take a super relaxing bath every night...

But most... come here. They come to share their fears, vent their angers, ask their questions and express their hopes. We do our best to be a support, a knowledge base and a soft place to land if things don't turn out picture perfect, as you know they sometimes do.

I hope that your forever baby is soon on it's way, but in the meantime... I do hope you'll spend some time around here. I've been here for over 3 years now and I don't know what I would've done without this place...

Best of Luck to you...

[becca4steven]

hi nikki

thanks for the reply and it has helped a bit but i know it only takes time and i have a friend who has been through the same thing so it does help a little but just wanted a bit more adivce about it all. many thanks again and i will keep u updated. xx

[kbpeanut]

to everything Nikki said. And I'm the one who takes a super relaxing bath every night - and it works!

I'm Karin, and one of the co-hosts of this board. I'm sorry for your loss. Everyone is different, and especially after a loss, the body can do some wacky things. There are many of us here who have suffered a loss, myself included, and it does crazy things to your body. This journey is never easy for anyone...whether your journey lasts one month or 5 years - it's challenging nonetheless. I agree with Nikki in saying that I hope you will spend some time here. I have been on my journey for over 3 1/2 years, and this board has become a lifeline for me.

Best of luck to you,
xx

[IndyMommyWannabe]

exactly what nikki said! I really don't have much to add... I just wanted to say good luck. I think, one of the hardest things is when you don't want to think about something, it just makes you think more and more about it. I call it the pink elephant in the room - no matter how hard you tell yourself to ignore it, you only think about it that much more! It's human nature! lol

And I can not stress to newbies how important this board and these women are. Like Karin said, whether you're here for 1 month or you end up staying here for a few years (although, for your sake, I truly hope it's the former...) - but this place is incredible for all types of support.

I wish I had more advice for you, but since I've never been pregnant, I can't really give you any advice. There are some wonderful women here, though, who unfortunately have suffered a loss and getting to know them, i'm sure, will help the healing process and the journey itself to finding that baby in your ams.

anyways - welcome!!

[blueeyes25s]

and I'm Dawn and I am also a co-host on this board.

I am so sorry for your loss. As Karin said, a loss can mess up your cycles and your body for a bit. I also had a loss myself....the cycle after I was late, got another BPF but then AF showed a couple days later but after that my body went to normal (well; at least normal for me ).

I think Karin and Nikki said it all so I don't have much more to add but just hang in there. The ladies here are wonderful so if you every need to vent, cry, whatever it may be we are here for you .

I think it's completely normal to have getting pregnant every month on your mind, but my suggestion is to find something else to help occupy your time such as a hobby to help put your focus elsewhere. No matter what you do, you will always have ttc and pregnancy on your mind but this way you can have a distraction. I have taken up running and focus on my health and I have created a project at home as my distractions and it is helping me relax a little bit and getting my mind off of pregnancy. I also remind myself of the things I can still do b/c I am not pregnant. I think the biggest thing is staying positive .

[becca4steven]

hi thank you all for the replys they are really helpfully. i have got a spare room that i am sorting out and going to paint ready for when i do get preg and it will take me a bit to sort out. i will be staying on here and i know that there are people out there when you need to talk and need adivce. many thanks again i will keep you all updated.xx