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July 13th, 2012, 07:39 PM
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My husband and I are trying to conceive our first and I am really nervous. We have really tried for the past 2 months and both times we got nothing. I am 8DPO and I am having every pregnancy symptom known to man, and I took a test this evening and it was a BFN. I know it's early but I got antsy. So I am going to wait until I'm due for AF which is the 19th. I've always been regular and always had light cramping and back aches during ovulation. So we "did it" a couple days the week of ovulation, and the day of. So I had to hit it. Any advice or support would be appreciated.
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July 13th, 2012, 07:48 PM
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Hi, and I'm Karin, one of the co-hosts of this board. First thing, try not to get discouraged. It can take normal, healthy couples a year to conceive. Sometimes, no matter how hard you "try", nature has other plans. Have you recently stopped using birth control? If so, that might wonk things up a bit for a few cycles. If not, and you are regular, are you certain you are ovulating? Many women, even if they have normal length cycles, do not ovulate. Many of us here chart our BBT (basal body temperature) and other cycle signs like CM (cervical mucus), CP (cervical position), and/or use OPKs (ovulation prediction kits). All of these, in conjunction with temps will help you learn about what is happening in your body each cycle. Most of us use a free site called Fertility Friend to track these things.

After you have been trying for 6 months to a year (depending on your age), you might want to look at alternatives like testing DHs swimmer (SA), or further testing for you. But that's farther down the road, if you've only been trying for 2 months.

This is a great group of ladies, and we all have a wide variety of TTC situations. My journey has been 3 1/2 years.

Best of luck to you!
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July 13th, 2012, 08:03 PM
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I've never been on birth control and we've never had std's or anything. It just seems like everyone around me is having babies and I can't.
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July 13th, 2012, 08:57 PM
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Like I said, it can take normal, healthy couples a year to get pregnant. I have been on a 3 1/2 year journey with this, and many others here have been trying for much longer than a year or even 2. It would be awesome if we could all just "have sex, get pregnant", right?

Unfortunately, it doesn't always work that way. There are many factors that come into play, and timing is only one of them. When I was talking about further testing, I was referring more to testing the function of your ovaries and tubes (are they blocked in any way? do you have any polyps that could be blocking them?), looking at your uterus (is it normally shaped, tilted? does it have abnormalities like polyps that would prevent implantation?), and other things like egg quality/egg reserves. You can also get tests done at certain times of your cycle to ensure that you are actually ovulating. Some women have very regular cycles, but don't always ovulate each month. As you probably know, you can't get pregnant unless you ovulate! Going even further, there are other things they can test, like do you have enough post-ovulation progesterone to support implantation and things like that.

For your husband, they test his semen (called a semen analysis), to see how many swimmers he had, their shape (are they mostly normal, or most irregular, or in-between?), their motility (how are they moving around?), and things like this.

Often times, it can be a combination of things between the man and woman that are making it difficult to conceive. And many times, there are easy fixes. Other times, there is no explanation.

Just remember, as frustrating as it is, your time will come.

Hope this helps
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July 13th, 2012, 09:28 PM
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Hi Erica, I don't have much advise because this is our first month TTC. Can understand your anxiety though. Hang in there.
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July 14th, 2012, 06:11 AM
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and I am Dawn (29), the other co-host on this board. DH and I having been trying for 2 years and nothing....

to EVERYTHING Karin said, I could not have said it better. It really can take up to a year of trying to conceive so after two months I would try not to stress out about it. If you're not charting I would definitley start there. You can check out fertilityfriend.com for free charting tools. Let us know if you have any questions!
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July 14th, 2012, 11:33 AM
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*Hugs*

I'm ashley, this is my 5th official cycle ttc and 8th since we stopped preventing in anyway. Sadly sometimes it does take a little while to happen.
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July 14th, 2012, 04:07 PM
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My mom's friend called today out of the blue and asked if I was pregnant because she had a dream that I was. Noone has said anything to her and when she dreams she's always right. Also my mom dreams of fish when someone is preggers And she did the other night. I'm still not getting my hopes up though. Hopefully I am!
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July 14th, 2012, 09:51 PM
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Also my mom dreams of fish when someone is preggers
My GRANDMOTHER used to dream of fish whenever someone in our family was pregnant!!!

I actually have a little bracelet of a bunch of fish that I always wear during my TWW because of her!
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July 14th, 2012, 09:53 PM
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My GRANDMOTHER used to dream of fish whenever someone in our family was pregnant!!!

I actually have a little bracelet of a bunch of fish that I always wear during my TWW because of her!
OH YA! I knew I had heard that somewhere before! Forgot where
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July 14th, 2012, 10:27 PM
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Husband isn't as excited as I am, but he says it's because he doesn't want to be hurt if I'm not. Made me tear up a bit thinking about it.
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July 15th, 2012, 03:41 PM
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As everyone says - it may take some time. I recently stopped BC about 2 or so months ago and we started trying after my first period off the pill (so 1 cycle) and got a BFN ... I was so upset but I'm learning to realize that it's "normal" for it not to happen right away and for most people, it doesn't. I got some ovulation sticks so I'm going to start that this month to ensure I am actually ovulating.

I'd like to do the temp thing but know zero about it ... :-/
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July 15th, 2012, 04:53 PM
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I'd like to do the temp thing but know zero about it ... :-/
There is another board called Fertility Charting...that would be extremely helpful for you! But here are the basics:

1. Get a basal thermometer - they record the temp to the hundredth of a degree. I got mine at CVS, but you can find them at most drugstores.

2. Sign up for a free charting tool. Most of us here use FertilityFriend.com

3. Take your temperature every single morning, right when you wake up, before you get out of bed, before you talk, or do anything.

4. Record your temperature on your chart. Fertility Friend has a mobile app that I have on my phone, so I usually just update it right to my phone, but you could also keep a little notepad by your bed, and record it there, and input it to FF later.

Hope that gets you started. Also, once you sign up on FF, there is a bunch of helpful information/quizzes on there as well to help you get familiarized with charting!
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July 16th, 2012, 05:52 AM
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I have the same problem, but I am tring to conceive 4 months. I hope we will make it.
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