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Or maybe its effecting.... don't judge my grammar.
Ok so onto the real topic. Before I was tracking (bbt, cm, etc.) my cycle length was always right at 26 days with a rare 28. I tracked for three months and it went to 30-31 cycle days every month. We went casual last month and it went right back to 26. I am so confused!!
First, do you think I am still likely ovulating?? I had confirmed ovulation every cycle I tracked which were also longer cycles.
Was the longer cycle length just caused by stress from noting every little thing?
Now I am not so sure when to use Pre-Seed (can't go without) and as it is expensive I would not like to have to use it the whole month.
Why is my body so difficult?? Ok probably no one can answer that last one but I would appreciate insight/advice!
Well.. for the pre-seed question.. go off your cm.
every woman has something called a BIP aka the basic infertile pattern. For me.. my pattern is creamy cm. Creamy isn't fertile for me (it is for some). Once my creamy goes from looking like lotion to starting to stretch I know I'm heading into my fertile phase and that would be the ideal time to start using the pre-seed. I will say though, DH and I have a quite active sex life and have been using pre-seed since last may, we use it almost every time we have sex regardless of my fertile time and we are only on tube #3.. maybe 4. We spent much more than that on regular lube the year before..
Now cycle length. Cycle lengths vary for many reasons. Not all eggs are made of the same quality. Some mature quickly, resulting in a shorter cycle. Some take longer resulting in a longer cycle. This doesn't mean that a longer cycle is a bad one to get pregnant during, because that's not true at all. And unless your cycles are edging out into the 40 day range there is nothing to be alarmed at. You have a very strong Leutal Phase (your days past ovulation) based off your charts.
stress can make your cycles longer. I cannot, and will not deny that. if charting is stressing you and pushing your charts out.. stop charting. I haven't charted full time since we switched from FAM (to avoid) to TTC almost 2 years ago with the exception of a cycle last summer. I chart everything but my CM like I used to before, and I can almost pin point my O even with out an opk (to a 3 day window usually.. and my opk's don't narrow it down either).
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I refuse to chart anymore or temp, because it stretched my cycle out to 35-45 days. No thank you. Not to mention the stress and axiety of it. Some women have amazing luck with it though, it's just not for me because I know my body and I know what stress does to me.
Hope that helped a little! Go with what makes you feel comfy. You can still take OPKs with out charting or temping. I stopped using OPKs because when I went to tell DH "Hey it's time, you have to perform," he gets stressed out and well....can't perform and when he does, it's not enjoyable and I agree with him 100%.
Alright so I am fairly certain that the stress of charting and all that focus on TTC is what made my cycles longer. I have decided to do as Ashley (p4f) suggested and just use pre-seed all month long (or at least until I KNOW I am past the fertile stage).
AshleyO, it does seem to me that every time I tell my husband that I am super fertile, he is tired or not feeling well, etc. If I don't tell him, he is ready to go! I think maybe it stresses him out and puts too much pressure on him as well.
I am just going to keep on going the casual route and try not to even think about it. I have also started working out and taking guitar lessons so distraction and other stress reducers should also help. Oh and shorter cycles means more chances to get a BFP!