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I'm curious as to who has experience with infants & children, and how much do you have? If you DON'T have experience, what are you most nervous about with having your own baby? I have a LOT of experience, from watching my SIL from the very beginning of pregnancy to birth, then tons of babysitting- when Hubby's grandma was dying from cancer, I took care of SIL's 4 kids every day, all day, but only overnight a couple of times for a month while she took care of her Grandma. They ranged from school age to infant. Now 2 of them are teenagers.... WOW time flies!!!
My SIL on my side, my brother's wife, has never been around babies, but teaches dance to small children. She is completely comfortable around small kids, but is worried about the infant part of it... and doesnt have anyone with infants that she can learn from! I think she will be a wonderful mother, she is extremely kind & compassionate, but I totally understand her worries.
I have helped several of my friends when they have brought their newborns home (but mostly I tried to help with thing like washing bottles, dishes, cooking, cleaning, pets etc but I always get to spend at least some time with the little ones) I have also spent a lot of time watching my nephew and helping my friend with her twins. I had a friend who had literally zerp baby experience at all (had never even held one) and she is a wonderful mother
I used to work in the infant room of a daycare and I babysat quite frequently. I also have two nieces and a nephew. My concerns are getting a baby on a schedule and getting them to sleep through the night. I don't have experience with those as the children I watched their parents had to do that work. My poor DH has no clue whatsoever. He is actually wonderful with kids and while in college he worked at a daycare but his only experience is with older kids. He couldn't believe that at 2 years old a child can walk and talk LOL. This coming weekend we have one of my nieces and my nephew overnight and I told him he can practice on my nephew.
I have significant child experience from birth (literally minutes old) to pre-teens. I'm the eldest of my grandmother's 9 grand children and there are large gaps between some of us (right now we are 29,27,26, 24, 22,22,20,19,10 and 3) so by the time my aunt's second baby came along I was already 7.5 years old, and my brother was born 2m later. By the time my baby brother came along 22 months later I could do just about everything (and we are not a shy family, there were times where mom would be napping and I'd just pull out her boob and latch him on to shut him up so she could sleep).
When my brother was a baby.. he only slept at night.. but he dreamfed all night long, then demanded to be fed all day. With a school age child and a toddler.. that wasn't cool. So she modified nap time to end the same time I'd get home from school. I'd put the tv on for the toddler and give him a sippy and a snack (pre laid out) and then I'd feed the baby a bottle (though he was nursed, mom pumped) so she could get a few solid hours of sleep. Some argued that it was making me grow up too fast.. but dang, I loved those days! LOL.
I've baby sat for family friends, I've babysat for strangers. I've got experience with everything from children with T21 who are non verbal to kids in wheelchairs. And then of course I have a step child... he isn't a baby tough.
The only parts of having a baby that I am worried about are pain during nursing (since I'm a huge wuss) and sleep deprivation (gives me migraines). I'm pretty sure i can tackle the rest. I can still remember my aunt saying to me. "I hate you, you know that? She's my second kid and I can't eat, or pee when I need to because they need me.. and here you are feeding her AND eating at the same time. It's not fair." (she really doesn't hate me.. she was happy for the extra hands).
TTC #1 together since December 2011
ttc naturally until end of year
May 6th- bfp @ 10dpo ended in a Chemical Pregnancy May 15th @5w1d
Me: Hashi's, PCOS,Multiple miscarriages
Him: MFI low count, low morphology, low motility Vitamins started August 2nd.
My main concerns are sleep deprivation & how to maintain our marriage. I know our relationship with each other will change, but I want to make sure to preserve the love & friendship, and the huge time & energy demands that kids put on you do concern me. My hubby loves kids & is excellent with them, and all babies love him LOL As for the sleep concerns, I have actually had some pretty good lessons in sleep training with this baby that I'm currently babysitting 4 days a week- he was very spoiled, he has a bunch of older siblings who carry him around & supply his every whim LOL He wanted to me to lay down with him to put him to sleep at naptime, and to stay with him even while sleeping! lol He would actually wake up to see if I was still there. He would also cry every time I put him in his walker or put him on the floor for tummy time (he didnt get tummy time at home, because he would cry about it, so he couldnt even pick up his head and look around- he was 5-1/2 months when I first started watching him. Within a week of getting regular tummy time, he started to learn to pick up his head & push his body off of the floor- also, he now goes to sleep easily & stays asleep for at least an hour! His mom was happy that he has started sleeping almost all night now! lol Also, he now happily spends a lot of time in his walker hapily cruising around & loves tummy time! I hardly ever carry him unless we are going outside, etc, and he still gets plenty of carrying from his siblings after school lol) Before him I'd never had experience with spoiled babies or with any sort of sleep training... now he & his mama are happier, and I've learned something invaluable! Yay! I really was worried about sleep training until I did it with him, I'm really glad I got to do it & esp with an older baby- not so worrisome as a younger baby.
BTW- I was not at all complaining about him in the previous post, I think hems pretty great & miss him when he goes home... he just gave me the opportunity to learn several things I needed to learn.
I'm a mental health therapist and I work with children and have been for a while. I also have a huge family with lots of little kiddos running a rounded there are always babies around I help out with lol.
I have a great deal of kid experience also.... a bit of infant and for sure tons of toddler to teen experience.... I've always had someone kids attached to my hip! People in my ton always ask, so who's at your house this weekend? lol
PS -- with all that said I'd be a little nervous about the first year, all day all night long thing....
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see.
And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. 'Blessings' by Laura Story (What if trials of this life, are your mercies in disguise) Glorious Ruins
I have absolutely zero experience. I've held a few small babies, but that is it. I never really babysat. My only experience comes from playing with dolls, and I have a feeling that will not be the same.