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  #1  
June 17th, 2005, 06:32 AM
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Hey everybody,
my husband and I try have a little problem. We try to get pregnant for almost 1,5 years but it still didnt worked out.
The doc told me it could take up to one 1 year the first time but I really dont know what to do anymore because I am getting slightly depressive.
Every month I am hoping. Everybody is telling us not to try it to hard but thats not so easy.
Right know we have a lot of factors that increase a temporarily infertility.( this is what the doc told us!) I took my birth control pill for almost 7 years.
My husband found out his sperm count is to low.(yesterday)
My doctor told me I dont weigh enough, but I dont think so. I am 5'5 and have 105 pounds.
We tried everything, from taking pregnancy vitamins over standing on the head. I think they want to check my husbands hormones too now! They checked me out already and everything was fine! Does anybody know what else to do? We were wondering if there is a medication that increases the sperm count?
Its so frustrating! My husband was married once already and they have a child together but he never sees him! And I know my husband wants a baby so badly and everytime when I see him so sad when he looks at kids it makes me feel so bad! I dont feel like a real woman because I cant give him a child! Its tearing me up inside to know his ex and he have a child together and its just not happening with me and him! I feel so unworthy and empty!
I hope someone can help me!
Thank you all!
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June 17th, 2005, 07:00 AM
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Sorry to hear about your situation. I know TTCing can be very frustrating. Unfortuantely i can't answer many of your questions, because we have just started TTCing, but i know that some of the other very nice ladies here will offer their information. In the meantime, dont get so down on yourself. Even when there are NO issues, you still have to hit the nail right on the head (so to speak) to become pregnant. Good luck to you!
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June 17th, 2005, 09:30 AM
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Have you tried charting? Are your period regular? Do you know when you ovulate? Have you tried going to a fertility clinic? If you've been trying over a year now, your Dr. should be able to give you a referral.

Try not too shoulder all the blame. Your DH is the on with a low sperm count, and you just need to gain a couple of extra pounds. Maybe taking a month off withut really trying will help?
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June 17th, 2005, 02:18 PM
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If you have your dh call a urologist, they can recommend vitamins that can help with a low sperm count. Have him switch to boxer shorts (if he's not wearing them already). Stay out of the hot tub (if he uses one ever...like at the gym).

And it's true, it can take normal healthy couples 6 months to conceive...so don't worry. The more stressed out you are, the more your cycles will be affected.

For your part, first, RELAX! Second, calculate your periods. If you're irregular, average the last three to get an approximate cycle length. Next, get an Ovulation Predictor kit. That will tell you your 2 most fertile days. Other than that...start charting your temperatures. That will show you that you are indeed ovulating!

My dh and I have been actively trying since January, but I went off the pill in October of 03!!!! It can definitely take a while. we thought we had a lot of things against us too (he's diabetic and I don't ovulate regularly), but we conceived right away. Unfortunately I miscarried, but I DID get pregnant.

Give it time...and don't give up! But I would definitely ask to be referred to a specialist. maybe they can give you something to help your chances!

Sorry this is long, just wanted to try to help! Good luck!!
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June 17th, 2005, 02:53 PM
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<<Hugs>> Sorry about your situation and the emptiness you feel about it. TTCing is stressful that is for sure and when you feel like the odds are against you, it is even tougher to handle at times. But you are not alone - many of us have something that makes the odds worse for us.

I know how you feel - my DH have some cards stacked against us: for starters I am 37 - which in itself increases the odds against us conceiving in any give cycle. Secondly, my periods are the handy and wonderful 28 days - they are more between 32 and 35 days (sometime longer) - which means I have longer to wait until I ovulate. On top of all this DH is diabetic which can complicate things.

But we are holding on to hope - having a baby is a miracle in itself, so why can't we be a part of a bigger miracle. It will take some time and work, but in the end it will be all worth it.

Good luck and lots of baby dust.
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June 18th, 2005, 08:03 AM
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Originally posted by DreamChaser@Jun 17 2005, 03:53 PM
I know how you feel - my DH have some cards stacked against us:* for starters I am 37 - which in itself increases the odds against us conceiving in any give cycle.* Secondly, my periods are the handy and wonderful 28 days - they are more between 32 and 35 days (sometime longer) - which means I have longer to wait until I ovulate.* On top of all this DH is diabetic which can complicate things.

Good luck and lots of baby dust.
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Donna,

I didn't realize we were so much alike. I mean, I knew we both had really long cycles but I didn't know that your dh was diabetic too! How weird.

See....we SHOULD head up March together. We're so alike in every other aspect, maybe we'll get our BFPs together too!

(sorry to hijack this post).
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June 18th, 2005, 04:27 PM
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Oh, my! I am sorry to hear about your troubles. I am not sure what to tell you except try to stay positive, and know that there is a lot that doctors can do to help. Do you know for sure if you're ovulating?
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