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Im so sorry Jamie, that must be really hard and frustrating. I was thinking to myself just yesterday funnily enough, what if my brother and his GF got preg before me, they arent trying as far as I know they are both a bit younger than us. I dont know what made me think of it, just one of my random TTC thoughts I guess. I just know I would be gutted.
I hope you do get your BFP first!!
Wow I'm sorry to hear that. Sounds like she's jealous of you and wants to get ahead of you so she said that to hurt you. It's a shame. I'd have a heart to heart talk with her. I never share baby names with close relatives cuz I've seen some relatives steal their thunder and use their baby names.. it's Cruel and rude.
Oh Jamie, I'm so sorry that you are going through this. It's a terrible situation for you to have to deal with. I'm sure you just want what is best for your sister and it doesn't seem like this is it. I don't blame you at all for reacting the way you did. I would have had the same if not a worse reaction than you if I were in your shoes. I hope your sister smartens up and realizes that this may not be the best idea for her right now. I'm here if you need anything!!!!
I would be upset too. My sister an I have always somewhat competed, but we are very different people, so some things we just weren't able to compete about. She is a newlywed now and she is not yet TTC. I also know she is worried she will have issues when she does because she was diagnosed at insulin resistant a few years ago, and that can lead to PCOS. She has not actually been checked for it, but she is worried. Still knowing all that, I still want to have the first baby. I am 2 years older and I have been married for almost 6 years now. Also she makes a lot more money than me (No way I could do her job. She is a contract attorney and she can keep the money. LOL).
I can imagine how much harder it would be with a sister that competes with EVERYTHING, and also knowing that likely making a mistake and something she is not ready for. Medical problems make it even worse.
Can I just point out how sad it is that she thinks that she is ready for a baby, but her MOM had to go get vitamins and folic acid and put them in her pill box. That is sweet of your Mom, but WTH?? If your sis is not mature enough or does not have the $ to buy them, maybe she should slow it down a bit.