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MY DD is going to school this year and with all this mess about bullying and shooting I'm naturally worried about her. She's never gone to daycare because I'm staying at her. This year she's fully entering the social life so I'm at my nerves about her safety. Do I need to pick a school with advanced security system? What's your experience?
I think you need to pick the best school for her academically which fits your idea of other standards. Locking your child down under lock & key in school isn't the answer, bullying still happens. Unfortunately, if people are going to bring in weapons they will bring them in no matter what. The best thing to do is to pick a good school in a safe area and hope for the best. I mean Columbine happened in an upscale neighborhood, it happens everywhere.
I feel that my child is safe at her school and there aren't metal detectors, nor are there any at the high school she will attend. I work in a K-12 school and we don't have metal detectors and I feel SO safe. Yet, the school that I worked at with a metal detector? Hated it, didn't feel as safe as I do now and those were just middle school kids!
So safety is in the eye of the beholder... security systems don't ensure safety and the best thing to do to help bullying is to equip your child with the mental "okayness" to overcome it all. Stand tall, stand proud no matter what.
Totally agree with Mom2Froggy in the sense that it's no use "Locking your child down under lock & key in school". Still it takes time to get used to it and let the feeling go. I was same once but my way out was that there was no school in the vicinity (in the whole world either) that matched my imaginery standards of security. Then I had to turn to the principle of the best (due to other ratings and recommendations) local school, and after I was shown around and shown all the security measures which I assume are a common thing for most schools, I calmed down a little. Now Tony's in the 3rd grade and so far no security accidents. I don't worry any more. You need to stop overprotecting your child. I know it doesn't help when a stranger says that but you've come to ask advice. If you still are in doubts, ask best of the candidates school's board what system they have. You know, the brand, the equipment, in details. Here they have Xeoma network station - works good, hi-res Beward IP cams that cover almost all of the territory (as far as I've seen and been told). Hope this helps. Ask if you have more questions.