[bethsbabydream]

DH and I just had a fight He can home tonight and went straight for the bedroom. I got excited thinking we were going to BD but he want to go to sleep. I am sure that it is O'time for me b/c I had EWCM this afternoon. The last time we BD was on Monday so I am sure that I missed the eggie again this cycle. I am so sad!!! I started crying and he just said I need to understand that he is tired. He needs to understand how stressful this is on me. I am sorry to vent but I am just so upset I cannot stop crying. Thanks for listening you girls are the best.

[LindsLuvsSi]

I'm sorry

[grace4me]

Aww..I'm am so sorry. I don't know your situation but I missed O this past cycle too because DH being too tired. I was so upset with him. We BD all around O day and I couldn't believe he "let me down" on the most important day. Like I said, I don't know the details of your situation but remember, he may stressed about about TTC. We are going into our 8th month of TTC with one chemical pregancy/miscarriage during this time. What a stressful situation this all can be. I mentioned to my DH the other day that he just isn't as emotionally involved in this process as I am because I am temping, monitoring my cycles, checking my cm, etc. He looked at me and said "I am more emotionally involved in this than you think". We went on to talk and he told me how he can see it in my eyes how much I want a child and he thinks something must be wrong with him...since it hasn't happened. I tell you all of that to say this...maybe your DH is feeling similar. Like he keeps performing but it's just not happening. I don't know. It doesn't make anything any easier for any of us but after I had that chat with DH, I understood the man's side a little more.

Again, I am so sorry.

Kris

[ShannonMVT]

That stinks. I hope you are able to talk to your Dh later about it.

I sat down with mine and he told me that he'd rather know up front when I expect him to "perform" (I know some guys don't) so I try and tell him in advance as much as I can what days I'd like to BD and when I think I'll O. That is what works for us.

I know it is really frustrating and I wish you the best and hope you two can work something out that works for both of you.

[snsgirl336]

Aww, I'm sorry hun! I hope you guys can talk everything out!

[Celry]

Sorry about your fight *hugs*

I do what Shannon does as well. My DH likes to be kept up to date on when I'm Oing. You should find out what your DH wants and try to keep him updated or not. Maybe that will help.

If you been at this for 8 months, you want to make sure you're still having fun BDing. We've been at this over a year now and we're still having fun and have not stressed out in the bedroom. I think that's very important as stress there can spill over into the rest of your relationship.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I'm sorry! I hope you still caught the eggie and you guys can work something out. G/L

[bethsbabydream]

thanks girls. DH & I talked about it today and we worked everything out. It is becoming very stressful and we are letting it affect our marriage. We promised not to get upset with each others and to try and understand that we are both very stressed out between work, school, and trying to have a baby. I really hope this happens soon because I cannot take much more of it. I am pretty sure I missed my chance this month so for the rest of the month we can relax and be ready for next month.

[~Andrea~]

Oh hun, I am sorry to hear that. The same thing happend with my DH. He just flipped all of a sudden. But, I think it was just because he was scared. Because a week later, he was more on board than ever. He doesn't even flinch when I let the work CM slip. LOL. I try not to bring that stuff up around him. Hopefully the talk you two had will help so this doesn't happen in the future.