[ShannonMVT]

I was talking to a friend at work and I was telling her my story about Dh's sister being pregnant. So then I was like "I don't get how people who don't want to get pregnant, always do and people who do want to get pregnant, can't." So then this other co-worker comes up and was like "oh yeah I know what you mean! I never wanted kids but I just kept popping them out, haha" Then she asks me if I couldn't have kids and I just say I don't know because I don't want to get into all of that with her since I don't know her that well. Then she goes on some more about how she "just kept shooting them out" and then starts telling my friend how her mom raised one of her daughters and her aunt raised another, but she raised her son herself (give the woman a freaking medal), but she got her daughters back when they were 12, right at that really pain the butt age. I didn't even say anything to her, because I figure there is no point.

But how can you be so stupid? If you think someone is having trouble having kids why are you going to start talking about how it was so easy for you? This is not acceptable anywhere else in life, but somehow it is for TTC?! This is not the first time I have experienced this. In fact every time I hear someone talk about how they are having trouble having children, I hear about how some other idiot starts bragging about how they are Mrs. Uber Fertile Queen.

The best analogy I can think of is this. Say you just failed some entrance test for the 3rd time (MCAT or something). Then you come up and tell me and I say, "Oh yeah. I passed that the first the first time I took it! And I didn't even have to study!" That would be considered totally rude and rubbing it in your face. So how come people are so rude when it comes to TTC?

And why would she act like it is no big deal that she didn't even raise her own kids? I would be embarassed to tell someone that I pawned my kids off on someone else.

But I am trying to just shrug it off and say you know what? At least when I have kids they will be loved and I will cherish them. I feel sorry for her that she is so dumb and cluless.

[dng]

I have a co-worker whose daughter is having her third child, in three years. In fact, her son is seven months old and she is seven months pregnant. She keeps telling me how all of the girls in her family are the same (just touch them and they get pregnant). Puke on that.

There is an article someone posted in TTC #1. It talks about what you are saying. It talks about how people are not rude to cancer patients, why would they ignore their manors for any kind of medical problem.... TTC for example.

[wishfulgal]

I know exactly how you feel! I have many friends and co-workers who say things like " He just looks at me and I'm pregnant" or "I got pregnant on the 1st try!" Sometimes, I want to explode!

[BabyBird]

OMG Shannon I can't believe she said that. I had someone say something similar. My dental hygeinist was asking me what meds I was on and I mentioned heparin and then had to go on to explain why because of my losses and she started telling me about how she got pg and had a m/c but it was a "blessing in disguise" because she didn't want a baby at the time and that all losses are a "blessing in disguise" for some reason or another. WTH! People just don't think!