[Mum2three]

Do you guys plan date nights?

how often is it?

what do you usually do?

[LindsLuvsSi]

Do you guys plan date nights? not really

how often is it? not often enough, DH works too much lately

what do you usually do? if we had a date night it's usually going out for dinner and a movie or cooking dinner together and watching a movie

[~April04~]

Do you guys plan date nights? we don't plan them.. .. its always like spur of the moment

how often is it? whenever we feel in the mood

what do you usually do? dinner and a movie... go to Colonial Williamsburg... or stay in cook and watch a movie

[snsgirl336]

Do you guys plan date nights? They are usually never planned... Generally last minute when we realize we have nothing to do!

how often is it? Whenever we have the time. We just had one this past weekend! It was really nice.

what do you usually do? Generally Dinner out at a new restaurant and watching tv at home.

Yes, we try to have two date nights a month and we both have promised that that will continue once we have kiddos. Usually once a month we go out, the other night is at home.

[jeanbean]

I love date nights with DH. We usually go out to eat and rent a movie at home. Sometimes we go out too, but not often.

[Delekatala]

I posted in the one year board about date nights, I will find and copy and paste it. OK, here it is, just copy and pasted word for word cause I am lazy:



OK, TTC is a lot of hard work and stress. Eddy and I were so stressed out in the beginning it created some issues for us. Because of that we instituted a fun type policy. We plan date nights, we plan massage nights, we set nights up to try something new etc. Keep it fun. As a result our bedroom life and our marriage in general is healthier than it ever was. We haven't felt BDing was a chore in a couple years, and always look forward to it. I sense a lot of tension around here, understandabley so. And I thought these couples need to have some relaxing fun time.

So I challenge you ladies, Plan a fun night sometime in the next two weeks (save those of you whose DH is deployed then plan it for homecoming). Every couple has thier own special things they like to do, and don't underestimate trying something new. The point is to enjoy each other and have fun, not to get pregnant. Don't worry about proper positions, or standing on your head or any of that. Post your ideas and let us know how it went afterwards. And if you have kids, you can plan it for after they go to bed, we do it all the time.

We plan them every two weeks. And we also plan little fun nights in between. here are some of our ideas if anyone needs some inspiration:

1. Eddy's Birthday night. We had a 3 hour rule system. For the first hour no touching any "good" spots. For the second hour good spots are ok, but no BD and no "O"ing. And the third hour, Anything goes! This sounds like a bit much, but it went by so fast and we were having so much fun we extended the time to two hours for the first rule, and we did a lot of snuggling and massage and stuff. We are still giddy over that night two months later.

2. Try something new night. We do this one spontaneously. I will call him at work and say Tonight lets do something we haven't done before. Or I will do a google search on spicing things up and find something to try to surprise him with. The important thing though is if you are wanting to try anything "out of the norm" to communicate about it beforehand, everyone has different tastes. Also another tip would be don't be embarassed. We have tried things that sounded like great ideas on the internet and ended up laughing with each other, either way it creates great memories.

3. Massage night, I have no idea how to give a massage, but with a little massage oil just about anything feels good, the idea is to have fun. I totally wing it and it makes him happy everytime. He has taken a therapeutic massage class, so I am always in heaven. We buy KY jelly brand massage oil, it is warming but doesn't leave you greasy. It is the best and we have tried a lot of them. but thier mint one isn't great. BTW even though it is KY brand massage oil, it is NOT lube and it is NOT for the more intimate spots, despite what the bottle says, just trust me, don't ask how I know.....

4. Expensive Date night. This one we do a few times a year you need a babysitter for this one if you have kids. Put aside a lump of money and have an all out night. Go to a favorite restaurant, or plan a romantic meal at home. But a new nightgown (doesn't have to be lingerie, just a pretty one that you can reuse after that). Snuggle with a movie, or put on music and chat. And just do whatever comes up. Believe it or not a couple of these we never got around to BDing. But we always had a Great time, and are refreshed and relaxed afterwards.

Here is our last expensive date night, we bought a bunch of finger foods for a romantic time, we snacked and chatted for 4 hours at the table right at home.



OK, Those are some of our favorite things to do. Keep in mind it is all about mindset. You have to think of it as special time, and make it special time. No talking about stressful things. Compliments are always good, and just have the goal of making your partner feel great. They should also have that goal for you, and it works. And if any ladies have any good ideas for date nights let me know by all means, we are always looking for new ideas..

[xanada101]

Do you guys plan date nights? I try to....

how often is it? not very often, our schedules conflict

what do you usually do? Go out to dinner, possibly the movies, or just stay home and cuddle while watching a movie


Thanks Jenny, those were great!

[Emm17]

Do you guys plan date nights? we dont often plan anything, unless its a special occasion.

how often is it? We do go out very often though

what do you usually do? dinner, for sure. Usually a weekend a way.