[mom 2 haley & tyler]

It's hard month after month to keep going. How do you do it when it starts getting tougher? It's been 9 months since my m/c. We were trying for 3 months before that, so almost a year now. Sometimes I tell myself I need a break, but I don't know that I can just stop obsessing over it. KWIM?

[MamaAnna]

Every time I think of giving up I look at my children and remember how much they would love another sibling. My daughter actually accuses me of being pregnant fairly often. I also look at pictures of them when they were newborns and remember how wonderful it was to hold them for the first time. As hard as it may be I can't imagine the wait not being worth it. They renew me on a daily basis or I would've given up by now.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I have a 3 1/2 yr old dd. She is my pride and joy. She is always saying..."if I had a brother/sister....."
That's a great way to look at it. I'll try to remember that.

[MamaAnna]

My DD doesn't even say if! She's always accusing me of having a baby in my belly and then when I tell her there isn't she starts telling me how cute babies are at the store. As if I need the pressure!

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

How funny! My dd started pushing her kitty around in her doll stroller the other day. I guess she practicing!!!

Thanks! You've actually made me feel alot better about all this today.

[MamaAnna]

I'm glad I could help.

That's so cute that she's pushing the kitty around! I don't know if you like animal pictures, but I go to http://icanhascheezburger.com/ at least once a day for a good laugh. Sometimes that's all it takes!

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

Those were great, Thanks! I'll have to remember that site.

[LindsLuvsSi]

Before, I'd jsut take time for myself.....time to relax. I'd take a bubble bath, eating some chocolates, either reading or watching a movie on the laptop in there. Just to chill. I'd go get a mani and a pedi to treat and pamper myself and feel pretty DH and I would also spend as much time together as possible because we knew one day there'd be 3 instead of 2 of us! We'd go out to lunch, dinner, the beach, the movies, and the park. We'd also try to get away for a night whenever it was getting rough just for a break and to clear our heads. That always refreshed and helped us. I'd always try my hardest to remind myself that we WILL have a baby one day no matter what it takes, we'll have one. That always gave me hope. And of course praying and asking Him for strength, comfort and a blessing always helped us too.

[snsgirl336]

I do a lot of similar things that Lindsey does.... trying to relax and pamper myself. I also spend a lot of time with my DH cause who knows how much longer it will be just the 2 of us! (Hopefully not long ) My DH is also really good about reminding me that we will get pregnant when it's supposed to happen. Sometimes I want to wring his neck when he says it, but he's right. I usually take a few days away from JM too, it tends to help a lot!

[Chaotic Momma]

Maybe you ought to take a break for just a month or two. Dh and I were trying for six months and I obssessed over it like crazy. I started getting really stressed and depressed. We took a two month break on my dr.'s advice. This is our first month back trying. The two months off really gave me a refreshed outlook and a chance to enjoy other things in my life that I was neglecting. Dh is going to the police academy so we will taking breaks on and off. I know you feel like you are wasting time but you really feel better afterwards. I hope things work out for you! Good luck!

I take TTC breaks, and convince myself that I would rather not have kids. A few weeks or months of that and I start to get excited about TTC again, and then we jump back on the TTC roller coaster!

[sethsgirl]

It is hard month after month, and we haven't even been trying as long as some of you ladies, we aren't taking a break though because when DH is deployed that will be plenty of a break, well I guess I can't really say that because he has month long deployments coming up so unless I O right before he leaves then we will have a month break if we didn't catch the eggie this cycle. It does get frustrating though.

[lauren in hi]

Sometimes I want to give up, but I just remind myself that last time when I least expected it, we got pregnant so it should be possible again. And I will try to do something for me if I can...it's hard to just be able to p/u and go or do stuff when you have a child w/ you (I'm sure you know what I mean) but even if it's just sitting at the computer for a few min. w/ the a/c on, it usually helps.

[Jlynn]

I am so sorry

God is the only reason i can keep going....He makes me so happy and i know i have alot of good things in my life to be more then thankful for.

[ShannonMVT]

It is so hard because I am so ready for this phase of my life to be over. I just keep going because I don't see any reasonable alternative. Sometimes I just wish I could enjoy my life more though, instead of feeling like part of it is missing.

I have no idea how I keep going. There are days when I completely collapse and just weep. This has been going for almost 2 years now and I don't know how much longer I can take this. Probably the only reason I manage to keep going is I know I am destined to be a mother.

[fuzzysunshine]

I don't really say very much, and I guess that's my way of "getting through it." I try not to think about the actual process, I don't temp but I chart BD and AF and my other "Symptoms." I've always wanted a big family (I have a half sister but she didn't live with me) and sometimes wonder if I should have started when I was 21 instead of 26. I am so happy for the ones who get their BFP, and have learned SOOO much from all the girls on this board. Maybe if I post more often, it might make it easier to get through it

[Lo_and_Behold]

It does get really difficult month after month.
I agree with the others though. Cris said what my dh sometimes says to me (and I find it equally annoying but it is true).. It'll happen when the time is right. There is a reason for everything & there must be a reason for this. I know for us, there are certain things we still need to get in order before a baby comes so it makes sense for us (unfortunately!! LOL)

Also, we did take a short break from about Feb until now. I was in the hospital for 2 weeks with pnuemonia & really really bad. It was touch & go & they weren't sure if I was going to make it. I was out of work for 3 weeks total & I think my body just took a hit (hence the twice in one month AF). We stopped "actively" trying Feb-April & didn't really start again till this cycle. We'd BD but I wasn't crazy about it like usual. In a way it was kind of nice not being so preoccupied with it. You'd be surprised how quickly you find other things to keep busy with!