[Jlynn]

Are they hard for you to go to?

~~I went to one today 5/31

here is a picture!!!


In this pic... Dh aunt, sister,mother,aunt, cousin, ME, Pregnant cousin, cousin,cousin, cousin and below are two more of my Dh's sisters.

[Chatterbox]

At first, yes. Once I get there it's much better because I get excited all over again for the mommy to be. Then at the end, it can be a little difficult again. I do love shopping for baby showers though. It is a lot of fun and it's exciting.

[snsgirl336]

It kind of is hard for me to go. I get frustrated because of course I want it to be my shower or for me to at least be pregnant. I keep telling myself that we will get there someday and it'll be my shower. Then I stop for ice cream on the drive home to soothe my aching heart... That always seems to help!

[Celry]

I haven't been to a baby shower since last August. That one wasn't hard, but we hadn't been ttc for too long at that point. I think finding out someone is pregnant without really trying is harder for me to handle than a baby shower would be.

[wishingxxx]

We dont really have baby showers here,but id imagine it would be difficult.
Just go though,and i bet you have a lovely time looking at all the gifts,itll possibly cheer you up and have you dying to get back TTC.
Have fun honey xxxx

[downunderchick]

Im same as Cel, I find it harder to handle whn ppl who havent been trying get preg. Iv only bn to 2 baby showers in the past 4 years anyway. not really a big thing here

[Jlynn]

I have 8 showers to go to in the next 3 months. I have to go to one today and one tomorrow. Both of these ladies got pregnant their first month off BC. It's going to be a hard day for me. But i think i will take your advice Chris and stop for ice cream on the way home

I can't wait for use all to have our very own showers!!

[ShannonMVT]

I haven't been to any since we started TTC. I'm sure there will be one soon for a girl at work who is pg (with a honeymoon oopsie). I think I can dodge out of that one fairly easily.

The only other person who might have one is my SIL. She is pregnant with a major oopsie with her boyfriend and unsure right now if she's going to keep the baby. But I don't know that she will be having a baby shower.

I think it might be really hard for me to go to a baby shower right now.

Oh wait! I just realized I did go to one! Back in...Feb, I think, I went to one for Astrid, one of the ladies online here. She had triplets. I could feel good about going to her's, because she had a loss and then had to TTC for a couple years and do IVF to get pregnant again. That made all the difference. Plus, at that time I had this naive feeling that my turn was right around the corner.

[Jlynn]

I have gotten out of a few too. I feel bad about doing that but sometimes you have to do whats best for yourself.


I have seen Astrid on JM before. Did you meet her here or did you already know her?

[~Andrea~]

I have one to go to next month, and I am not looking forward to it. And, unfortuantly, I can't/won't back out. I love this girl dearly, and really want to be there to share in her excitement. Maybe I will get pregnant this cycle and it will be easier to deal with. (keeping my fingers crossed!)

[ShannonMVT]

I have gotten out of a few too. I feel bad about doing that but sometimes you have to do whats best for yourself.


I have seen Astrid on JM before. Did you meet her here or did you already know her?[/b]

I agree, you do have to do what is best for yourself sometimes. I guess you just have to judge on a case by case basis whether it is "worth it" to you to go.

I didn't know Astrid before I came to JM. I got to know her after we lost Thomas, she was a co-host on the Pregnancy Loss board (and I think also on the TTCMA board). She was always very encouraging to everyone and there were lots of people on JM who were excited when she finally got pregnant again with triplets. TTC after a loss hosted an online baby shower for her and a lot of people from her DDC sent her gifts. A lot of girls on TTC after a loss sent me money via Paypal and I went and bought things from Babies R Us to give to her from all of us. She was so excited and it was easy to be happy for her after all she went through to get those 3 babies.

[Jlynn]

I have one to go to next month, and I am not looking forward to it. And, unfortuantly, I can't/won't back out. I love this girl dearly, and really want to be there to share in her excitement. Maybe I will get pregnant this cycle and it will be easier to deal with. (keeping my fingers crossed!)[/b]

I hope you get pregnant this cycle too!!! I went to the shower today and once i was there it wasn't as bad as i thought it would be. I found myself fighting tears once but other then that i was laughing and having a great time...

Good luck with the shower!!

[Jlynn]

I agree, you do have to do what is best for yourself sometimes. I guess you just have to judge on a case by case basis whether it is "worth it" to you to go.

I didn't know Astrid before I came to JM. I got to know her after we lost Thomas, she was a co-host on the Pregnancy Loss board (and I think also on the TTCMA board). She was always very encouraging to everyone and there were lots of people on JM who were excited when she finally got pregnant again with triplets. TTC after a loss hosted an online baby shower for her and a lot of people from her DDC sent her gifts. A lot of girls on TTC after a loss sent me money via Paypal and I went and bought things from Babies R Us to give to her from all of us. She was so excited and it was easy to be happy for her after all she went through to get those 3 babies.
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That is so sweet that everyone got her stuff!! It's easy to be happy for someone who has had a really hard time ttc. I always find people like that give me tons of hope when they get their BFP!! So you guys live pretty close to each other?

I wish i could meet lots of JM ladies. So far i have only met Lindsey twice. She is awesome and a ton of fun!!

[wishingxxx]

Lovely pic jamie,it looks stunning where you live.You are so lucky,and you know what?
You look relaxed and happy in that pic

[snsgirl336]

I'm glad the shower wasn't as bad as you thought Jamie. I agree with Meg- you look relaxed in that picture! I hope you had a good enough time that you didn't need to stop on the way home for ice cream! Hopefully your own Baby shower will be coming soon!

[mrsapexpredator]

I have 7 ppl due this yr. I was shopping all day yesterday with 2 pregnant women, one 7 month old and two 1 1/5 yr olds for a baby shower. So I really have it all around me too. I am trying to swallow it becuase I am putting my nieces shower together and I am with her a almost every weekend and she is 29 week. It is hard, sometime so hard that I get frustrated. At least my niece has been thru a little of what we all have been thru she tried from age 20-22 and was on clomid and everything and once she went off of everything 1 yr later she is pregnant w/o assistant.

Good Luck to all!

[caseyb]

I don't mind them too much- I'm not one that is real comfortable being the person a shower is held for, so I think that's why it doesn't bother me so much. I had a wedding shower, and I just did't like being the center of attention with everyone watching me open presents- so before my son was born- my friends opted to have a dinner at one of their houses which they hired a private chef for to cook my fav. foods for everyone- then everyone just pitched in for that instead of getting baby gifts. I'm a bit of a minimallist when it comes to baby stuff, so I didn't any gifts, and also we were living in Hawaii at the time and due to move back to the states 3 months after my son was due- so we were holding off on getting alot of the typical baby stuff.

I'm usually still able to be pretty happy for friends/family members at their showers- but I know one thing that has changed as a result of having a miscarriage/harder time TTC #2 is that I don't assume everyone around me can concieve easily. Does that make sense? Just comments like "My husband just looks at my and my stomach starts growing" or " I'm fertile myrtle!" make me a little uncomfortable- because you just never know what others around you are experiencing. I'm pretty sure I never said anything like that before having the trouble we've had with #2, but I do know lots of people with 3 or 4 kids who have a tendency towards such comments- those kind of stabs are much harder for me to deal with than showers.

[lauren in hi]

I don't even think I've been to one since we've had Abby! We have friends expecting at the end of June & are having a shower for them in 2 weeks (not at our house, but we're going to be helping). I'm going to be giving away a lot of Abby's stuff b'c I know this couple is going to have a hard time financially.

[fuzzysunshine]

All of our friends are still single, and I haven't been to a baby shower in a long time. I love to give presents and wrap things (and make cards for them), so I don't think it would be hard to go to one right now.

Now, ask me again in six months! It may be a different answer

[~April04~]

I pretty much get to avoid baby showers because I don't know that many people here in VA... It looks like you had a good time though!