[1stepmom]

I know we obsess about TTC daily , but I didn't think DH thought about it that much. Lastnight we were talking about the house (we're remodeling) and he said something about "IF we ever have a kid....how long have we been trying now?" I told him 7 months and he looked pretty down. Then put on my (fake) happy face and said "don't worry honey it will happen for us" I don't want him to feel like i feel about this. It's frustrating and sad at times. ......today is gonna be one of those days.

[iamkc]

*sniffle* DH gets so down. I think that he might take it harder than I do a lot of times--I didn't think that was possible. He's very sensitive...he cries a lot. Even though I've explained a hundred times how our cycles work and that I wouldn't know anything right now, or haven't even ovulated, he doesn't seem to pick it up. Every day when he comes home, he has this look in his eyes, sort of like, "Any news?" He cries when he sees babies. He doesn't like to be around his baby niece. He cried the whole time we were in Portland visiting my brother, SIL, and their kids. During my period, he just plays with my hair and rubs my back, even though I know it's killing him, too. I think that I might want to have a baby more for him now than anything. Don't get me wrong, I want it BADLY, but I wish you could see DH talking about it. The only thing I've ever seen him like that about is ME...and anyone will tell you (for whatever reason) how in love he is. Hehe--supermodels don't hold a candle to me...in his eyes. So I know how much he wants it. AND I asked him what he wanted for Christmas yesterday. He just broke down. I knew what that meant. I feel like such a failure for not being able to give it to him. Like you, I just tell him that it WILL happen. It has to.

So, long answer short, yes, he gets down about it.

[margo1973]

I think DH is mostly worried about how TTC is affecting me. He sees that some days, like today, I am really sad about it and tries to cheer me up. He says that he is convinved that we will have a baby and is not concerned. Then again maybe he is just pretending not to put more pressure on me.

When we got married, we were already in our 30s and we dicussed the possibility that we might not be able to have children. We were both Ok with this but now since my mc, I want a baby more then ever before and so does DH.

[Blue Eyes 409]

My DH did he would think was it something he was doing wrong was something wrong with him. And he would also feel so bad because I got upset month after Month!!! But now he tell me it is all worth it

[iamkc]

My DH did he would think was it something he was doing wrong was something wrong with him. And he would also feel so bad because I got upset month after Month!!! But now he tell me it is all worth it

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Awwww...hehehehe. I'm so happy for you guys, Sandy! It's totally worth it, I know. I brought it up to DH tonight and he said that even with losing so many, it's worth it all knowing that there's a possibility that one of them might make it home to us. I can't wait!