[Jlynn]

This is a long story...

Ok well some of you know i had seen a really crappy RE before i found an amazing one. Well my old re has been calling me alot. I never answered the phone. Well today he left me a message and said that i really do need to call him back if i am still serious about getting pregnant. He went on to say that he is very concerned about my husbands SA and wants him to get into a urologist ASAP.


I was confused because i thought my husbands SA was ok. I knew he had low motility but my new RE said all he wanted to do was take another SA.

After that phone call i called my mom and told her. She said " Honey you know that he has a very low sperm count and motility" (my mom went with me to see the new RE) I was like what?? I must have missed that. So i called my new RE and sure enough my DH has both slow and low So i called my old RE and had him make an appointment with the urologist. I don't want to waste more time doing another SA if i can get better answers going staight to a urologist? Don't you agree? So i guess right now i am seeing two RE's

Here is the worst part My stupid mother in law who KNOWS we have been ttc for 8+ months decides to tell me this weekend that my DH was born with hypospadias. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypospadias
He had surgery to fix it when he was little but it wasn't done perfect So she said his sperm may not be lined up to get were it needs to be. Plus it's slow and low
I wish she would have told me this the last 4 months i had called her crying my eyes out when AF showed.

[~April04~]

O wow I'm sorry Jamielynn . I hope the urologist can do something for you guys... My DH has a low count too.. it makes it harder but it def doesn't count you out.

[Lo_and_Behold]

Ohhh Jamielynn!!!!! I'm so sorry you had to hear that news! Hopefully the urologist can do something to help things along. It's a good thing your old RE tried to remain in contact to help you.
I have a very bad feeling our problems w/ttc may be due to dh also. It so sucks when you're trying to do all the right things & make changes, but it's not your issue. I hope your drs can help.

((((((((HUGS)))))))))

[Clare]

When can DH see a urologist? I cant believe its taken so long for your mother in law to tell you about DH! Did he know about it?

[caseyb]

Grr...that's so frustrating. It probably feels like you've wasted a few months now that you could have been doing something proactive with if you had known what you know now. That's real frustrating.
I've never seen an RE, am quite scared too actually, but I have seen my fair share of Dr's and I know that it really stinks to be matched up with someone that doesn't feel right for you? Why didn't your last RE communicate to you your husbands problem more in depth? Sounds like he didn't give you the whole picture when discussing the results, and I'm sure if he had it wouldn't be something that you would have just forgotten!
And thats very strange that your MIL wouldn't have offered up the info on your husbands surgery prior to now!
I'll be thinking of you- and I'll read up on that link you posted when I get a moment.

[mom 2 haley & tyler]

I'm so sorry Jamie! I hope the urologist can offer a quick fix to this problem to help you get a BFP soon. I'll be praying for you guys. KUP

[Jlynn]

Thanks ladies. I am just so annoyed right now.
My DH knew he had surgery but didn't know what it was for. He also didn't know it wasn't fixed very well. It sucks becuase his count and motility are bad mixed with really bad aim. I am sure the IUI would be our best option at this point.

Has anyones hubby been to a urologist? Does that mean it's really bad if they want to send him there or is it common?

[Hopingfor1soon]

I am sorry to hear about your bad news!! I hope that the urologist will give you some answers...and I do agree that going straight to a urologist will probably help to get things moving along faster. Just remember that there are medical options that are available to you to help overcome these problems....I am not sure if you are open to it or not, but IUI may be a good option for you guys! I would check into it if you are open to it...Good Luck hun!! You will be in my thoughts and prayers, keep us posted...

By the way, I know it is quite common to have your husband see a urologist if there is any sort of problem. They already had that lined up for us, and it turned out that DH has "super sperm" as he puts it....so I wouldnt worry too much...it is quite common!

I'm so sorry hun But if that's the only fertility issue, then hopefully a simple procedure such as IUI will help boost your chances!!

[ShannonMVT]

How frustrating that your MIL didn't mention the surgery until now.

I thought his count and motility weren't that bad though? Maybe I'm wrong but I was thinking they just a bit low, but not too bad?

I don't blame you for wanting to go ahead and go to the urologist before doing a 2nd SA. My OB suggested that my Dh go to one as well, but we haven't yet because everything I've read indicates there isn't a whole lot they can do for my Dh's possible problem (slightly low morphology).

But your Dh's case is totally different so maybe there is something they can do to help him. Or as you said, there is always IUI also.

I hope you get more answers and help soon.

[snsgirl336]

I'm so sorry that your MIL didn't think to offer up the info that would have probably saved you a lot of heartache up until now! I hope that getting right into the Urologist can help you guys decide what the next steps would be in your ttc journey and you can get yourselves that much closer to that BFP you deserve!

We're all here for you!!!

[BabyBird]

Oh Jamie I am so sorry she didn't tell you until now. I know it sounds like a huge setback now but I am glad you found out before he saw the urologist so that he might be able to offer some advice. I agree with the other girls that IUI would probably do the trick! I am glad you are getting things taken care of and soon you will have a plan.

[*becky*]

Well fooey!!!

That is so weird that your DH didn't even know what the surgery was for!! He probably feels a little frustrated too!

I would definately go straight to the urologist, I'm sure they will have DH do another SA to confirm the results the RE came up with.

I'm so sorry you are just finding out about this now. The good news is that there are LOTS of things that can be done to help you get pregnant.

[Chatterbox]

Oh hun, I am so sorry to hear that. I'm glad that you made the appointment with the urologist and I hope that they have some good answers for you. Don't give up hun. *hugs*

awww Jamie, I'm sorry! What a blow! DH sees a urologist for his issues, and the guy is quite good. He has DH do repeat SA's every time he comes to town to make sure all is working, so your DH may need to do another one. Good uck hon.

[fuzzysunshine]

I'm so sorry for all the frustration Jamie! All of the other ladies have given you great advise. Hang in there, at least you are now on track to getting a solution and your BFP!

[LindsLuvsSi]

Jamie!!!!! Hun I'm soooo sorry!!! I can imagine how frustrated you are with your MIL, etc. I wish you all the luck and you know I'm praying for you!! I know it will all get fixed and you'll be prego in no time! Hang in there girl!!

[dng]

I hope you get it all figured out. I guess it is a good thing she told you at all; I wonder why it took so long.

[Mom2Ethan]

Hi Jamie! I don't know if you remember me being here or not, I used to go by TTCTricia.

My husband had the same thing--grade 1. Nobody realized there was a problem until he started having trouble urinating around 6 or 7 years old. He too had surgery to correct it. As far as I know, he is okay, but the opening is really large. My DH had high sperm count, but low motility and many abnormalities. We had been trying for 7 cycles when I finally got pregnant. This is just my personal opinion and maybe TMI, but I think our position had everything to do with it. We had been doing missionary with hips propped up on a pillow, using Pre-Seed, etc. I decided to switch it up one night and tried doggy-style and boom, I'm finally pregnant.

Obviously, I'm no medical expert and no doctor has told me that is the reason we finally conceived, but I can't help but think that it is true. It is worth a try anyway. I wish you much luck in your TTC journey!!