[babyblue]

I have to vent for a moment:

My 21 year old nephew and his pregnant girlfriend/now wife came and stayed the weekend with us. She is due in Sep and they don’t have a lot of money, so DH and I decided to buy them a car seat among many other things. I would bet I probably spent over $350 on their baby in all- between the seat, diaper bag, bottles, clothes, diapers, etc. Anyway, she is 19 and so lazy. All she did the entire weekend was whine about being tired. She basically just laid on the couch and watched TV when we were at home, even when the rest of us were out by the pool. We went to the lake on Friday and she complained she needed a nap all day when we were out on the boat. She apparently does no house work, no laundry and doesn’t cook at all. She is adorable and such a beautiful pregnant woman, but I seriously just wanted to shake her and tell her to wake up and to grow up! The worst part is, she begged my nephew to get her pregnant b/c she wanted to move out of her parent’s house, so he did b/c he loves her. I do believe they love each other a lot, but it just gripes me for her to have no idea how lucky she is! I loaned her my maternity bathing suit but there was no way I was loaning her all my clothes b/c she doesn’t take care of anything and I have a lot of really nice stuff that I plan to use again someday.

And then I have a co-worker who told me she and her husband “weren’t careful” this month, so she might be pregnant. Just a month ago they were going to get divorced- she’s about to go back to school full-time, they have hardly any income, and now she may be pregnant! I just feel like here I am, and I have all my crap together, so why can’t I have a baby when everyone else can? I know you guys all have felt the same way- that is why I am venting here. I love this board b/c I know you all understand.

Anyway, I got into work this morning and one of my good friends sent out an email that she is pregnant with baby #2, her second month trying. This is one pregnancy I am very happy about! There are 4 of us girlfriends who are all trying right now, and she is the first.

I just feel like it’s never gonna happen again for me! I just want to cry! I am going back to my doctor on Wednesday. I just feel so sad. If you made it this far, I’m impressed.. .thanks for reading. I just needed to get it off my chest!!!

[DoulaMama]

I hope you're next!!!

I feel the same way sometimes. my husband and I are completely capable of handleing the financial burdons, and emotionally we'd be wonderful parents. Physically we're healthy, good habits, morally sound, mature.... responsible...

so why is it so hard for us, but so easy for people who are so much less equipt then we are????

It especially makes me upset when people like your co-worker get pregnant!!!! :angry2

[caseyb]

Hey Amber-
I can understand your rotten mood. TTC for longer than expected is frustrating on so many levels. I think your venting to the right crowd here.

What is your appointment with the Dr. about? I didn't realize you were already seeking medical attention..are you guys considering trying something new?

I'm rooting for you this month- hope things work out so you can experience a pregnancy with your friend! That would be a really fun thing to share

[snsgirl336]

I can understand your frustration.... I don't think there is anything that I can say other than I think we've all been there before.

[skysmama]

I'm sorry you're feeling badly. It must be so hard with everything piling up like that- the niece, the co-worker, and even though you're happy for her, your friend. It seems like the longer you are ttc, the more pregnant people come out of the woodwork! I feel for you!

[babyblue]

What is your appointment with the Dr. about? I didn't realize you were already seeking medical attention..are you guys considering trying something new?[/b]

Well, after my m/c nothing has seemed to work right. I had to take meds to get a period and then I wasn't ovulating when I used to be like clockwork. So I started clomid and took it for 3 months, hoping to get my body back on a normal schedule. It did work in that regards and I started ovulating again at least- but never got pregnant. He told me to come back if I didn't end up pregnant from the clomid, and I didn't (my last round was two cycles ago). So I waited another couple of months hoping it would just happen, and it hasn't yet. I'm going to at least go in and talk to him and see what our next options might be. I wonder if maybe I've had some setback b/c of the m/c, since my first two pregnancies happened immediately. So I'm ready to explore some other options. I wouldn't be so rushed if it weren't for the fact that my son just turned 3. I really had my heart set on having children closer together in age, but I guess it just wasn't in the cards for us. If nothing else, maybe he can give me some reassurance. I feel like I have no confidence in my body anymore!

[*becky*]

Vent away...we know exactly how you feel. It doesn't help that we've been TTC for so long that we're extra sensitive to pregnant women in general (is it just me or are they EVERYWHERE??)

I hope your Dr. appointment brings to hope for you. It's great that you are ovulating now, you just needs something to kick those ovaries in gear more!

[Emilymac]

We all understand your frustration...so please feel free to vent! I hope that your next doctors appointment brings you some answers.

[jeanbean]

Don't ever feel bad about venting....that's what we are here for!

Good luck at your upcoming doctor appointment. Hopefully you get some answers and you're on your way to a beautiful BFP!