[caseyb]

Since most, if not all, of us are married or in serious, committed relationships, how do you feel about you OR your spouse attending a bachelor or bachelorette party where there might be... adult entertainment?

[Lo_and_Behold]

I don't like it, personally. I guess I'm either jealous or insecure, but I don't want him looking at that kind of stuff (esp since I've heard of many a story of what goes on). I don't even like mine to look at p-rn.

[bhonea]

It depends on the situation. My dh will let me go whenever I want. He says he trusts me, and I guess he means it!

Now with him, that's a different story. I don't want him to go to a bachelor party where the stripper will be at the hotel room/house. I've heard of the sleazy things those girls, especially when more money is involved. I don't care if he goes to the strip club for the party because there are bouncers and you're not allowed to touch the girls. I don't think things would get out of hand there. I trust dh, it's the other guys egging him on that I don't trust.

We actually had a huge fight about this a week before our parties. I went to one city, he went to another. I was told that they were planning on getting a stripper for the room, and I flipped out. He ended up calling his sister, (she was throwing the party) and told her to get a stipper for me! I was so embarrassed when the 'cop' showed up at the front door. And it turns out that dh went to the strip club and was in bed by 12:00 because he got the stomache flu. I came home the next day and the poor guy was running to the bathroom every 15 minutes and couldn't keep anything down. I keep telling him he needs to have another one, but he won't listen!

[~Andrea~]

I honestly don't care what DH does. We have a rule. "I don't care where you work up your appetite as long as you eat at home!" It works for us. Im not going to stop him from seeing adult entertainment. I know him and his friends go to the "clubs". Some of them don't tell their wives, lie about it, whatever. I always told DH I would rather him tell me the truth then lie or hide something from me.

[~April04~]

I don't like it, personally. I guess I'm either jealous or insecure, but I don't want him looking at that kind of stuff (esp since I've heard of many a story of what goes on). I don't even like mine to look at p-rn.[/b]

he respects how I feel about it completely and I guess my DH is weird but he wouldn't even do any of that kind of stuff even if I was ok with it.

[ShannonMVT]

Not okay with it because of moral reasons. But Dh feels the same way I do about it, so it's not an issue. The only naked people we get to look at are each other!

[caseyb]

Thanks for your honesty everyone! It's an issue that came up recently at our house. Just trying to figure out if I'm the only one who has to put my foot down on the subject I've been invited to two bachelorette parties myself this month and I didn't attend either- being put in those type of situations is just not condusive to the direction I am trying to take my faith right now, and I think it it is somewhat disrepectful to DH. DH has been invited to one and, although it's not something he has ever done before, he wants to go to catch up with some friends he rarely gets to see. I'm all about reconnecting, but under those circumstances...not so sure. I would feel like a major witch telling him he "can't go", that's just not the type of relationship we have- but I feel like I should tell him how I feel. I'm such a non-confrontational person- trying to avoid have this turn into an argument, and approach this delicately.