BFN....sad day :(....anyone ever had a false neg?

~CadensMommy~ · #1 July 26th, 2008, 03:25 PM

Hi guys,
Just feeling pretty down today and needed to just get this out. Do you ever just feel like you'll be waiting forever?

Took a home pregnancy test this morning and got a BFN. Thing is I really thought this could be the month for us. DH and I have been doing cycle monitoring and I finally O'd we bd'd at the right time and then 7 and 8 DPO I had what I could have sworn was implantation bleeding. We are supposed to be going into the fertility clinic on Monday to do a pregnancy blood test but we decided we'd like to try a HPT before so we could be together when we got the result (doc calls with results, not always good timing when I'm at work) We're both soooo disappointed. I can't help but wonder what the chances of the HPT being wrong are? I don't have any other prego symptoms though so it's probably not wrong I guess.
Thank god for a super supportive DH but still feel so sad. Doc told me if we didn't get pg this cycle next cycle she wants to put me on clomid and try a "sperm wash" anyone know anything about that process?

still TTC#1.........

ShannonMVT · #2 July 26th, 2008, 03:34 PM

How many DPO are you? Maybe it's too early for it to show up on an HPT.

It sounds like maybe your doctor is talking about an IUI. They get your Dh to do his thing in a cup, they take the sperm, wash it (so only the best ones are left), and put his sperm into your uterus through your cervix. That way the sperm don't have to swim so far to reach the egg.

I do feel like I'll be waiting forever. It's odd...lately it seems like I am getting further and further away from finally getting my baby instead of closer.

*becky* · #3 July 26th, 2008, 03:40 PM

(((hugs))) I feel like that all the time. There has only been 1 month where we didn't time things right, so every other month I've gotten my hopes up. Nothing but blazing white BFN's staring back at me.

But - like you said, be thankful for a supportive husband (and us too!). I'm glad your doctor has a plan for you - hopefully you'll have a BFP soon!

~CadensMommy~ · #4 July 26th, 2008, 04:00 PM

today I am 12 DPO. Do you know what DPO I should wait to test on? ohhhh so that's what IUI is! I've seen that on here in some posts and was curious. Do you know if it hurts? I had the sonohystogram done and the doc said not to worry it wouldn't hurt but I was doubled over in pain afterwards and had to get DH to drive me home, yikes!

It's so frustrating to be doing everything right and still getting BFN isn't it? I'm sorry it hasn't happened for you guys either yet, I'll be crossing my fingers for you both for BFP real soon.

And you are so right baileysmomma, it really helps to have you guys on here to talk to about this stuff. We are the first ones in our group of friends TTC so even though they are wonderful and as supportive as they can be our friends don't really understand what we're going through.

Alisa78 · #5 July 26th, 2008, 07:32 PM

Lily, I know exactly how you feel... and that's why JM is so great. The whole ttc roller coaster of emotions that we all go on every month is so exhausting. People that aren't having trouble conceiving have NO IDEA how it feels! Only those wanting so badly, thinking of it almost every second of every day, understands. That's why I am so grateful for all of you!!! Good luck to you and I hope you get good news soon!!

Celry · #6 July 26th, 2008, 07:36 PM

Yes, it is very frustrating and disappointing to do everything right and get a BFN month after month. I've started to adapt an attitude that it won't happen instead of when it happens. I think it's my defense mechanism because it's gotten so hard. I think I either Od today or will tomorrow. We timed things well, but I'm already pessimistic about this cycle.

I don't know about the accuracy % of HPTs on different DPO, so can't help you there. Sorry.

*becky* · #7 July 26th, 2008, 08:42 PM

It could be too early still...with my daughter Bailey, I got a BFN on 13dpo and then the BFP on 14dpo.

I have heard that IUI's don't hurt - they put a catheter through your cervix to do the insemination.

~CadensMommy~ · #8 July 27th, 2008, 12:05 PM

Ok well knowing that maybe I tested too early makes me feel a bit better. I didn't O until day 17 of my cycle so maybe my body just does things really slowly

I don't want to get my hopes up too high but I'm back to crossing my fingers! Thanks!
I know what you mean Celry, we keep saying the same thing every cycle "we know it's not going to happen this time but maybe next time" just so we don't get completely crushed when it's not good news each time. Also I'm so glad to hear you say you're thinking about it every second of every day too Alisa. I was starting to think I had developed an unhealthy obsession with the whole process

Thank god for you girls and JM!! haha

~Suzanne~ · #9 July 28th, 2008, 10:25 AM

I'm sorry for your BFN. This has happened to me in the past as well. I have been sure that I was pregnant, even thought I had implantation bleeding, only to get a BFN a few days later. It is very discouraging! I will keep my fingers crossed that your test was wrong... and you are PG!