[~Suzanne~]

I am so frustrated right now that we are STILL not pregnant, yet I am surrounded by pregnant women! I know that this is common to all of us... it just seems to be so difficult to deal with when someone we know announces their pregnant! My bf's brother and his GF are pregnant and he was making jokes about how he wished that she would "lose it". I was horrified! Especially considering the fact that he knows his brother and I had a miscarriage in December and have been trying to conceive ever since. Do you think he even gave that a second thought? I am dreading seeing them in December for the holidays. My BF thinks it won't matter because we'll be pregnant by then, but that's not a guarantee. I just spent my vacation around this jerk, I don't want to spend the holidays with him as well. This discussion is only leading to a disagreement with my BF though because he can't understand why it is so upsetting to me? Are men lacking this empathy gene? Why does it NOT affect them the same way it does us? I wish that I could be happy for them, but I am not. He is no more fit to be a father than my 13 year old son! I can't say anything else to my BF or it will only lead to problems. Looks like I will have to keep my mouth shut.... not always easy, that's for sure. I guess I will end up crying in private instead.

Thanks for listening! I am sure there are others out there that can relate.

[sethsgirl]

I'm sorry you're going through this hun, I know how hard it can be. We've been TTC our first since the end of Sept./beginning of Oct. 2007 and we haven't been pregnant yet and my BFF is 8 weeks along with her 2nd and its a horrible situation that she's in and she doesn't seem to realize how insensitive she's been about the whole thing knowing that we haven't been able to get pregnant for going on 11 months now. I hope you get your BFP soon!!!

[Hopingfor1soon]

I hope you feel better soon!!! I agree it can be so frustrating, and its just not fair that its so easy for the some people....especially the ones that dont deserve it! And you are right, men just honestly dont understand. I got into a huge fight last night with DH about TTC. He keeps saying that its all in Gods hands and what not....and I have to remind him that without MA we CANNOT concieve....Grr... If you ever need to talk just let me know!! I know exactly how you feel...we are on to month 14 and cycle 15 or TTC#1.....

[*becky*]

(((hugs)))
I think guys deal with things differently. I don't think they grasp things like this all the way. The ones who do are a rare gem!

Unfortunately you are in the right place to vent. We all share this common frustration and wish we could have blinders to all the pregnant people of the world.

I hope that you are pregnant before the holidays so it won't be an issue.

[Celry]

Go ahead and vent all you want. I've been TTC for 16 months. I know plenty of people who have had kids during that time. It can be very difficult to deal with. We're here to help.

[snsgirl336]

I'm sure we've all been in a similar position, so I say vent away. I'm sorry that you have to deal with this though... I wish there was a magic thing that someone could say to make everything better, but unfortunately there isn't. All I can do is offer you lots and lots nof