[Rachel Katsouros]

I don't know what is wrong with me this morning. I am reading some posts and crying at the computer. I think that the reality of TTC for almost a year is hitting me. I don't think I ever thought it would come to this. I know all of you are in similar situations. How do you continue to stay positive. I have been doing a really good job up until today (like I said, I don't know what my problem is today).

I also figure that now would be the time to start looking into having further testing done. DH has not had a SA yet. Have any of you done that? How did it go when you asked DH? What is the first step in getting that done?

I also am thinking of making an appt. to see my OBGYN to get evaluated. I don't really know what to ask for. Any suggestions. I want to sound like I know what I'm talking about when I see the doctor.

[~Suzanne~]

I was in that same "place" last week. I sat in front of my computer trying to find the answer as to why we haven't conceived and started crying out of frustration. You are definitely not alone. Mine happened to be related to PMS... AF started the next day, which only made it worse. Sometimes, just the anticipation of getting that BFP can be overwhelming. I know when I test early and get a BFN, it only makes it worse. We've decided not to test early any more as it only leads to more frustration and tears when you see yet another BFN.

My SO had a SA done last month... which only included the count, motility, viscosity and pH. I don't know why it didn't include the morphology (shape) as this is critical to conception. So, we are going to have that test done next. The others were within normal. We didn't wait the 2 days of abstinence that was "recommended" as we wanted it to reflect what we normally do.... (every day) so we would have an accurate assessment.

I went to my OBGYN and he ordered some tests (CBC, thyroid tests and the FSH (ovarian reserve)). I haven't gotten those results yet. If they are normal, I think he is going to suggest clomid.

Just try to be positive. I know that is easier said than done and I have a hard time myself. It will happen eventually.

[Rachel Katsouros]

Thanks. I think I just needed to get that out. Thanks for all of the information too

[simplycurly]

Dh went to the appointment with me when we were ttc our first and were having problems. Dh actually got to hear about the SA from the OB so it wasn't like "I" was asking him to do it...I think he took it better coming from the OB :lol Like Suzanne said, they'll do the blood work and go from there. If it comes to it they may do a HSG to check to see if your tubes are open.

Staying positive...well that's a hard one. When we were ttc#1, it was very hard, but with each cycle I had to remind myself that this was a chance we might get pg. I think after you visit with your OB/GYN you'll feel a bit different. When it came to that point, I felt like I was able to doing something about the situation, whereas for the past years I was just aimlessly trying...don't know if that makes sense. It's like I felt that seeing the OB made it better because we had a little "help". I know it's hard, but keep your spirits up...besides, when your spirits are low the "trying" isn't fun anymore

[snsgirl336]

I'm sorry you're having a tough one! I've been there and totally done that too! My DH is really great about keeping me positive, so I'm really lucky. I hope you can get some answers if you go to the Dr... Lots of

[Rachel Katsouros]

thanks

[*becky*]

Just wanted to add some hugs!!

[dng]

My DH was more than willing. I too feel that hopelessness and despair. It is hard because everyone that was on the TTC board when I started has moved on with few exceptions (many have kids that are several months old now).
It does help somewhat to be seeing a doctor and trying new things. It does not feel like I am wasting time. I wish I could tell you something to make it easier, but I don't know what it is. I have cried almost every day for the last 2-3 months. I feel bad for DH. I hope you get pregnant soon.