i can't help being rude...

~Lynda~ · #1 September 7th, 2008, 06:37 PM

ok so as you all know i've just suffered a m/c at 8 weeks. my neighbor (who is a new neighbor i might add) just had a baby girl. i went over with a little gift when she was born and they sent a thank-you card (i was pregnant at that time but it was too early for me to know it). twice now, i have been out in front of my house gardening and she has taken the baby out for a walk around the neighborhood. i KNOW i should go over and see the baby, but i just have waved and said hello. if i go over there right now, i know i will cry, and it will set me back. i know it is rude and it's not who i am. but i can't bring myself to go over to the stroller and see the baby.

i will be able to do it in time, but i'm afraid my new neighbor is going to think i'm one rude lady. i feel so horrible about it, i don't want to go in the front of my house so i can just avoid it for now. heavy sigh!

xanada101 · #2 September 7th, 2008, 07:44 PM

I don't think you're being rude at all. You're still saying hello and acknowledging them. Take the time when you are more comfortable. It would be more awkward if you tried to rush it and burst into tears... kwim? Go in your own time... you'll be glad you did.

snsgirl336 · #3 September 7th, 2008, 07:49 PM

I agree with Toni... you have to watch out for yourself and how you're feeling first and foremost. You can make the effort when you are ready- you're waving and saying hello, I don't think that's being too rude, especially if she's a new neighbor!

#4 September 7th, 2008, 07:52 PM

Toni!! You acknowledged the birth more than most neighbors would! Take your time!

SavaAngel · #5 September 7th, 2008, 10:19 PM

all the above!

DoulaMama · #6 September 8th, 2008, 09:33 AM

yep!everyone else is spot on. And if you still feel bad, maybe next time she's out you could call over "I'd love to come see the baby but I'm still a bit germy... I just can't seem to kick this cold."

it's a great excuse, and one I've used quite a few times.

babybatax2 · #7 September 9th, 2008, 09:59 AM

I didn't like newborns for a while. I just felt like that should be me! It took me one whole year until I held a newborn and it made me feel soo good to complete that task. It is something simple, but you definently need to take your time and let yourself heal.