[~April04~]

Well.. sometimes I hate the Navy..

I told ya'll about how my DH got cross rated and would need to go to school in Florida for a little while. Well he got his orders today..

and..



they are unaccompanied orders.. Which means that I don't go with him.. turns out the school is only 10-12 weeks long and they have to be at least 14 weeks to get accompanied/PCS orders. He leaves November 17th.

So my husband is going to Pensacola Florida for 3 months and I'll be here in Virginia by myself. So that means TTC will get put on hold as will all the tests and everything we are going through at the moment. I'm completely heartbroken. We were sure that school would be long enough that I would come, but I guess not. Not only will he be gone for 3 months, but he'll miss Christmas, his birthday, New Years and Valentines Day.

I'm a military wife, I'm used to being alone, dealing with deployments and underways and all that. But God this one is hitting me hard. I don't want to put TTC on hold. I just got my first appointment with the RE, Jeff is starting the process with the urologist, now that has to stop until we're at our next duty station. I know we're not going to get pregnant before then, Jeff's d*mn near sterile I really don't want to stay here by myself, I hate the new neighbors, yeah we have 3 guns and 2 dogs so I should feel safe but ugh, its not the same. I don't want him to be gone for Christmas and everything else. He's never been gone for anything major, he's always made it home.. I'm not even gonna get to see him on his birthday

ugh.. sometimes... being a military wife... sucks .

[northerncaligrl707]

Im so sorry to hear that. I can't imagine how hard that must be for you. Try to stay positive and remember that luckily its just for three months.. If you need someone to talk to know that I'm here to listen.

[xanada101]

Wow April I am so sorry!!! I would definitely try to go as far as you can with the RE up until he has to leave! Don't give up. You never know! This would upset me too, if I were in your shoes... ugh I can't even imagine. I still think you have a chance though. Just do what you can in between now and then. If you need us we'll be here... and I know that's not as much of a comfort as knowing your DH would be with you... but we're here.

[~April04~]

thanks Toni.. I have my appt on the 18th so I'm going to let her know my DH is leaving for 3 months in November and if we could possibly speed things along because of that.

[DoulaMama]

Aww, that's horrible. I have so much respect for a woman who could handle that- I know I couldn't....

I'm sending you extra, extra

Maybe- worse case- you could bank some sperm (well- he could) since you have to do IUI anyhow I think.

I'm sorry April! You are so strong!! Everyone's said everything I would say, but I just wanted to add some

[~April04~]

thanks ladies.. I'll be fine.. I always am.. the timing just sucks

[snsgirl336]

I'm sorry April... I think it's a great idea to see if you can speed things up with your RE. Maybe they'll be able to do a lot more than you think! I hope so. Is there anyway that your DH could continue with what he has to do Dr-wise down in FL and have the results faxed or mailed or something? Maybe if you explain your circumstances they can do that for you! Sending you more

[dng]

That really does stink. I know it might not help TTC since you are using medical assistance, but is there any chance you could go see hime. Cheryl had a good idea about banking sperm. I just wanted to tell you also that I had a friend whose husband's SA was horrible. Morphology was 0 (yes zero) and the other numbers were not good. They were saving for IVF and got prego within a couple weeks of his SA results.

[~April04~]

eh if he was leaving for like a year I'd think about banking the sperm.. but it's only for 3 months so that really wouldnt be worth it... hopefully he'll be able to come home during Christmas standdown.

[Hopingfor1soon]

Oh I am so sorry hun!! Hopefully one way or another you will get to see him!!!

[~Lynda~]

oh hun, i'm sooooo sorry. that stinks!!! my husband travels alot and he always seems to be gone when i'm Oing. I get so down about it. I know your situation is worse and i'm so sorry. any chance you can get a bfp before he leave???? HUGS

[sethsgirl]

I completely understand how frustrated and upset you are about it. We've had to put TTC on hold as well ast testing too. We may get to TTC once in the next year with all of the underways and the deployment. I'm so sorry that you aren't able to go with him. I hope that he has enough time around Christmas that he can go home to be with you for a little while. If you ever need someone to talk to or vent to feel free to PM me. Right now I'm there with you as far as sometimes being a military wife sucks. But we do it because we love them.

[~April04~]

thanks Colleen, it really does suck having to put everything on hold.. I'm sorry you have to go through that as well.. I'm here to talk as well if you ever want to vent about anything... DH may not be a submariner anymore but I've deal with all of it already.