[crowdreamer]

I've mostly been lurking here, but I have to vent now.

I've been trying to stay postive and stop obsessing. I've stopped watching the baby shows and reading the magazines on parenting. I don't even cry any more when I get AF.

AF is now on her way (got a clear temp drop this morning, along with spotting), I'm getting ready to move into C8, and I've done just about every possible thing I can do. I'm 34 going on 35 in 3 months, DH is 43. I made an appointment with my OB/GYN but apparently she thinks it's no big deal, because I couldn't get in with her until the end of February. It makes me so mad. By that time I'll be a few days from 35, and they say after 35 you're not supposed to have to wait more than 6 months to get the fertility work-up. Why is it every time I talk to a doctor they act like I'm over-reacting because I want a few simple freaking tests? By the time I get to see her, I will have been trying for 9 months, and be on C10. I only have so many eggs! Then there will be all the testing, which could take several more months, and if it's endometriosis, which is what I suspect it is, it could take her several months to decide to do anything about that. I'm starting to really dislike doctors.

Every single month, DH and I have BD'd every single day for 4-7 days before I o. I use OPK's, I chart my bbt religiously, I take my otc herbal fertility pills, I don't drink alcohol. Maybe it's just not meant to be, but I feel it is so cruel because ever since I was 18 I have wanted only one thing, to be a mother. My best friend is pregnant with her second (due in March), and we had wanted so badly to have children together so they could grow up together.

Sorry for the vent, I am just really starting to get depressed about the situation. Any uplifting thoughts, anyone?

[auntmeme]

You concerns are completely natural. It is not just you. Do you need your dr's approval to go to a fertility specialist? Or will your dr. do it themselves?

I am 30, DH is 34. We have been TTC for 2 yrs, 7 months. One BFP in Jan 2005 that ended in m/c in March 2005 at 11 weeks. Just got a BFP on Christmas Eve. I had been to my OB on Dec 16 and she wanted us to see a fertility specialist soon. She could do some testing at her office, but if I had to be sent to a specialist they would just re-do the same tests again and then go from there.

I would also call your dr back and ask to be put on the cancellation list. So if someone cancels, then maybe you can get in sooner.

I know it is hard, but stay positive. Good Luck!!!

[crowdreamer]

You concerns are completely natural. It is not just you. Do you need your dr's approval to go to a fertility specialist? Or will your dr. do it themselves?

I am 30, DH is 34. We have been TTC for 2 yrs, 7 months. One BFP in Jan 2005 that ended in m/c in March 2005 at 11 weeks. Just got a BFP on Christmas Eve. I had been to my OB on Dec 16 and she wanted us to see a fertility specialist soon. She could do some testing at her office, but if I had to be sent to a specialist they would just re-do the same tests again and then go from there.

I would also call your dr back and ask to be put on the cancellation list. So if someone cancels, then maybe you can get in sooner.

I know it is hard, but stay positive. Good Luck!!![/b]

Thank you. And congrats! That is a nice reward for the long wait, and a wonderful x-mas present. Sticky vibes to you.

Apparently I cannot get in to see a fertility specialist without seeing my OB/GYN first. I talked to 2 different drs. about it. I don't know if that's because my insurance needs her to refer me or what. But yeah, then I'll probably have to get an appointment with someone else, and that's more time to wait. Oh well.

[iamkc]

I'm sorry that it's taking so long and that you think your doc doesn't care. It's more likely that that's the first regular appointment s/he has. I agree--try to get on the cancellation list. I've gotten in MONTHS ahead of schedule that way. I'm sure you know all the statistics about how long it can take a healthy couple to conceive, and you're still within that range. But I know how hard the wait is when so many people seem to "get it" on the first try or 2. Believe me, you're not alone in your frustration.

Have you thought about having DH tested? It's quick and painless and he can get that done sooner than anything you might have done. It's just nice to have that knocked out. If it's endo, there's hope! I've had multiple surgeries to scrape, several hormonal therapies, and so on. It's still painful, and no doubt hinders TTC (along with some other problems I have), BUT it's possible. Why do you think it's endo?

I hate to suggest this because I know that some women adore their OBs and aren't comfortable changing docs in that field, but perhaps there's another who's a bit more specialized and will see you more quickly...just a thought.

I hope that you get some answers soon and that your OB or another or SOMEONE is able to see you soon!!! It will help tremendously to put your mind at ease, won't it?

[Mom2_3mb4]

I'm sorry that you are having such a hard time. I had my 3rd DD when I was 36 so 35 isn't that old. I am 39 right now and will be 40 in May. We've been trying for my last-DH's 2nd for 16 cycles now. So you aren't too old really.

I'd go and see the doctor and have her do tests before O and after O in case its something as simple as progesterone issues.

I agree that maybe you could find someone who is more for you as an OB/GYN.

Good luck.

[HockeyFan]

I can understand you being frustrated w/your docs, but it sounds like you're panicking b/c of the "terminal deadline" of age 35 looming...but try not to!

Plenty of women conceive after that age, and not all in the best of health either. Yes it does get more difficult to conceive as you get older, but there's no magic "switch" that goes on at age 35.