Aww, Thank you sooooo much girls!!! I really appreciate your kind thoughts and support!
Here's fair warning...this might be long!
Sooooo..... I cornered DH in the car on the way to dinner at his parents. (It's an hour long ride, so I knew we'd have uninterrupted time). I started off by kinda feeling him out on the subject. He didn't seem too receptive on talking about it, but Oh well, I wasn't letting the opportunity pass me by.
I told him how I was feeling frustrated and down about everything and asked how he was feeling. He was very honest and said that it was really bothering him that we hadn't gotten pregnant by now. I knew this because I see how he gets every time I have to tell him AF showed up. Then I asked him why he was so set on waiting until January to start testing and stuff. He told me that he trusted what the Dr said and that it was what we both decided on in July (which is true).
I told him that this wasn't going to get any easier over the next 2 months while we wait. (I apparently threw all my positivity out the window at that point- not intentionally though). I also told him that by the time we started testing and stuff in Jan. It would probably be another few months while we waited for certain days to do certain tests and get the results and possibly even more time if we needed any meds or procedures.
He asked me what had changed and why I was in such a rush to start all this stuff. I told him that I just had a gut feeling that it was time that we did. I told him that what was right for us a few months ago, might not be right for us now. I told him that every month when I get AF, it hurts more and more and that I can tell that it's hurting him as well.
Well, after about 30 (+) minutes
, he said that he would do what I wanted to do. I told him that I wanted us to be on the same page and that was why I was beating a dead horse (pardon the expression) about this stuff. He said he understood. He wants me to be positive and think positive (which I have always been) cause he knows that this will happen for us. He doesn't want me to get obsessed with this all (ummm, seriously? How could I not be! LOL ) He'd rather wait, but if I was dead-set on starting things up, he'd be ok with it. He then got a call from work that he had to take.
So that's kind of where we left things for now. I feel better. I think we'll be giving it one more cycle on our own. (I think AF is coming in the next day or 2). That will give us time to talk to each other more about it all and talk to the Dr. to maybe see where we should start.
I'm pretty happy that we had this talk, and I feel pretty positive about the way it panned out. I think I might have broken him a bit with my whining
lol Seriously though, I think it's a great stepping stone for us. We both managed to say what we wanted and get the other person to understand how we were feeling. We've always been really great about communication.
Hopefully we won't end up needing any testing cause we'll get pregnant soon (maybe even this cycle, but I'm not so sure). But if we do, it's nice to know that we're on the same page now. I tell ya, if I do end up pregnant this cycle, I'm gonna feel like a really big whack-job Nut for getting all crazy about this stuff!!!
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Good Luck, Cris
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I've also been spotting since 9dpo which is weird for me, so I'm just confused and waiting for AF's impending arrival... we'll see what happens! 
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