[sweetpotato]

Hi, I am new to this site and well to be honest I wanted to talk to people who understand what it is really like when you are ttc. I mean i look all around and i see a lot of people who can't afford a baby or don't want it and then i think why is it so easy for them???. My husband and I started to try a month before our wedding as we did not want to wait any longer we knew it was the right time. Well we have been married for almost 8 months and no baby. So we play this game like everybody does and we hope and pray, but why can't it be like when we were kids and our moms told us the stork dropped us off. When did the stork be come this ficticious thing, i mean does he not know where i live???. My husband is an angel and holds me everytime the test comes out wrong and i know it hurts him too. But what I hate most of all is my body telling one thing and they all point to that bundle of joy we want, but when i test it says no sorry you suck try agian. Does anybody feel this way or am I alone in this.
take care
sweetpotato

[medicgirl]

Hi, I am new to this site and well to be honest I wanted to talk to people who understand what it is really like when you are ttc. I mean i look all around and i see a lot of people who can't afford a baby or don't want it and then i think why is it so easy for them???. My husband and I started to try a month before our wedding as we did not want to wait any longer we knew it was the right time. Well we have been married for almost 8 months and no baby. So we play this game like everybody does and we hope and pray, but why can't it be like when we were kids and our moms told us the stork dropped us off. When did the stork be come this ficticious thing, i mean does he not know where i live???. My husband is an angel and holds me everytime the test comes out wrong and i know it hurts him too. But what I hate most of all is my body telling one thing and they all point to that bundle of joy we want, but when i test it says no sorry you suck try agian. Does anybody feel this way or am I alone in this.
take care
sweetpotato [/b]

Everytime I see the BFN I think to myself "well my body must be broken. I mean if it is designed to get me pregnant and I'm not, something must be wrong". We have been trying for 7 months now and AF is due to arrive tomorrow. I can feel her coming today though. The only thing that I feel is good from all the waiting is that I have more time to pay off the bills before a little one gets here. My sister just started trying too and that has added a lot of pressure on me. I will be happy if she gets pregnant but at the same time a little angry if it happens so much sooner for her. It will also be the first grandchild for my parents, needless to say, we both want to be the ones that give that to them.

[instant_oatmeal]

Good luck to you! I too wish there was a stork! I feel the same way as you. Its really hard to look at that test month after month and only see 1 line.

[Blue Eyes 409]

I am so sorry that you are having a hard time. I too went threw the upset every month... It is hard to stay positive when you see these teens in school that accidently get pregnant. Then you have people tell you just relax it will happen. I know it hurts. Everytime someone looked at me I was like I can't relax I want a baby I want to complete my family!

I charted my temps and felt like I was doing everything right. It took me 9 months and I finally got pregnant only to have a m/c 6 weeks later. I kept trying and this time I had gone to the Dr about taking so long and he gave me Clomid and I finally got pregnant on cycle 14. I know how hard it is we are always here for support.

[Can't Wait]

You are not alone I know exactly how you feel. Just hang in there the stork will come with something for us one day.

[Phoenix Rising]

Oh I totally feel how you do!

I see those darned teenagers pushing a stroller and "out to here" pregnant with their second. Now I am not saying that a teen cant be a wonderful parent but its just not fair you know?

Sigh... starting cycle #38...

[Lisa P.]

Try BEING the girl who got pg her first time at 16 and now is having trouble conceiving.
Sometimes I think the big man upstairs has a twisted sense of humour.

Or, as my husband would say (during one of his speeches about our ancestors) a woman's body was actually made to have babies as a young woman 16-25 years old. THAT's why it was so easy for you to get pg then. Now we just have to try harder because you're not that age anymore. Ya' thanks for the reminder jacka**!

[sweetpotato]

Wow thanks you guys it made me cry(in a good way) that people do understand and are not just saying relax i hate that word lol
Well I took the test yesterday and i seriously thought that this was the time, i mean i was feeling things i never felt before, and guess what no baby. So it hurts, man does it hurt, i just wanted to curl up in a ball this am when i got my Cousin from red deer. And to top it off, my 3 weeks old god daughter is here and she is so precious and sweet, that it hurts her even more. I see my hubby hold her and i retreat to this room for a minute. I did not mention before, that when my hubby and i first starting dating i found out i was preggars the day after he needed time to think. I had just started to get excited about having a baby and then I had a mc. It hurt then but it hurts more now then it ever did. I think wow she would be 2 years old now and that makes it worse for me. So like others i sit and wonder is it me cause my hubby has a 5 yr old son so i know he can make da babies so it must be me. My dr says that after a year we will look into checking things out to make sure things are alright. I don't want to wait as it is not fair this up and down roller coaster that i ride each month.
And now i hear her cry so i am off to hold this sweet angel ttfn
sweetpotato[color=#6600CC]

[vachicklet]

I sorry it's so hard. I've been wishing for a stork for 12 months now. I've been having weird feelings since ovulation and I'm doing everything I can not to hope I'm pregnant. Because I'm charting, I can see that my BBT hasn't risen one bit and I'm due for AF late this week, so scientifically, I know it's extremely unlikely I'm pregnant, but physical, my body feels "different." But then, it *always* feels different before AF - the symptoms are never the same month-to-month. And the truly sucky thing is that if AF shows up this month (highly likely, I'm afraid), DH has to go out of town next month on business and he's going to be gone the week I'm fertile!!! Sigh - sometimes I think it's never going to happen for us. In the meantime, my sister is two months pregnant (she had a very hard time with her first baby, so I'm truly thrilled that the second pregnancy happened so quickly) and my nephew keeps asking me if I have a baby in my belly yet.....

At least we all have each other to commisserate with.....

[iamkc]

Oh, dear...First, welcome to JM and our board!!! Glad you stumbled across us.

Now, about that #*(@ stork! I think that we all thought it would happen fairly quickly, in spite of medical problems, etc. It's just what our bodies are "supposed" to do! Who knew that they needed more help than we could imagine?! I think that we've all tried for much longer than we thought we'd have to (that "it takes up to a year for a healthy couple to conceive" statistic always seemed like the medical profession covering itself ahead of time and not like the reality!) and inevitably, we feel "broken." You're not broken, though. Just taking a while longer, that's all. And don't worry--no one here will tell you to relax. It would be too hypocritical of any of us. Hehe. Let's take a vote: who here is relaxed?! Yeah, I thought so.

Of course, please feel free to talk to us anytime...this is a great group of ladies that understands that monthly and even daily frustration of TTC!

[julesmom]

I am glad to hear everyone's thoughts and feelings and to know that I am not alone. Most people, friends, family, just don't understand, EVERYONE tells me to relax. Lilke I am SO stressed out about not getting pregnant that is WHY it isn't happening, and honestly i don't think that is the case!! I am not stressing about it, but I do get depressed everytime a good friend gets pregnant (there are 3 of them right now) and when AF comes.

I was one of those teen mothers, unwed, the father left me, I had Julia at 19, by myself, she is now almost 6 and I am married to a wonderful man who adopted her. I have a GREAT life but for some reason I feel....empty? I keep waiting for the stork to come visit too....but 12 months later and all normal fertility tests, and no baby. Everyone just keeps saying..you will get your baby someday, but the question i always feel myself wondering is...what if we can't have a baby?

Keep your hopes up girls, hopefully all of us will get our visit from the stork soon!

[sweetpotato]

[SIZE=2]
Hey Ladies
Besides when people tell me to relax i personally love when i am told maybe your trying too hard. Last time i checked that was the fun part, come on ladies i know your all thinking the same thing wink wink . Honestly I have come to the conclusion that when the stork does final relise my address and can make his way over here, wait a sec, we all know the stork as a male now if the stork was a woman then we all know she would have been here a long time ago and with something more practical then a blaket am i right?!?! LOL
Sorry i got away from myself there ok I am back on track here, what i was trying to say was that we all worry,stress and cry over ttc and when it finally does happen we will remember but it won't hurt as much. Wow I was all zen like there wasn't I? Must be the estrogen, ah ya the force is strong in me . [color=#6600CC]
But i must go as I am planning a night of hot passion yep I am going for gold here, yep you guessed it beer and wings
Ciao bellas
sweetpotato

sorry ladies apparently my computer or this website studderded
ciao bellas sweetpotato

[zoey]

I feel the same way. I know someone who has 5 or more kids, the kids are in their 20s on up and each has several of their own, one with 6, and the youngest with 2 and no Dh. Their house is full of their kids and their kids' kids. And they have no money. Its insane over there. And here we have this big ol' empty house. And we've had unprotected sex since we got married, 4 1/2 nearly 5 years ago, we did to the "pull-out" method, but still, your telling all these people who have babies young didn't do pull out methods and stuff Maybe?
Go figure.
I agree the older you are the worst it probally is. Im 27, 28 in April.
I often think there is something wrong with me. Otherwise we would have taken already so I totally understand where your coming from. I think we all feel like that once in a while being on the 6+ month board.

***HUGS***