[Phoenix Rising]

Thought for today…

During our journey to conceive a life (or another one) and bring forth into this world a ray of light that only you alone can create in its that exact form, we sometimes feel downtrodden, disappointed, frustrated and out of control. For me personally, these feelings can also lead to feelings of inadequacy and questioning my own body. I have children – I know that I can create and produce healthy babies. Why then, is it that my body is suddenly forsaking me? If you don’t have children already, those thoughts may become more along the lines of “why doesn’t my body work like other women’s?” and “What’s wrong with ME that I can’t have a child”.

All those feelings, whether you have a child or do not have one in your arms yet are perfectly natural… and understandable. It’s difficult and perhaps sometimes impossible to not feel this way. It’s hard to feel upbeat and positive every day – especially when it feels like those months of trying are, in actuality, years. Time passes slowly when we can’t have what we want and we have no way to foretell the future does it not?

My thought for you today then is this:

Look at yourself in the mirror. If you are feeling really brave (unlike me thank you very much!) use a full length one. What do you love about yourself? Is it your hair? Your eyes? Maybe your lucky and you still love your waist line or your hips. Perhaps it’s the way that your eyes crinkle up when you smile or that wonderful dimple on your right cheek that your DH loves so well.

Whether you find 10 things that you love about yourself or 2, look at yourself in a different light. Look at your hips… don’t those hips look perfect for bearing children? What about your tummy… isn’t it going to look simply divine swollen with child? How about your breasts – whether you are going to nurse your baby or not God gave you those breasts so that you would be able to nurture your baby when he arrives. How about your hands? Yep, you heard me right. HANDS. Do those hands not look like the most gentle hands? Are they not built for caressing your newborns cheek and gently cleaning scraped knees and wiping away tears? Look at your arms too – they were built to hold your baby – to cradle her in your arms as she sleeps. Look at your lips… they were made with built in softness to kiss your child and whispers secrets into his ear. Just think – someday you will be holding your baby in your arms, minutes after her birth and using those lips to whisper all those secrets that you have been just waiting to tell her. Do it softly and don’t let anyone else hear – for those secrets are for you and her alone and she isn’t going to tell a soul.

God created your body perfectly so that you can bear children, nurture them after birth and show them the gentle and loving touch of a mom… and as you well know there is NO touch in the world as wonderful as the touch of a woman who loves you – whether it’s a mom, a grandmother or an aunt. I cant say to all of you that you will bear a child of your own… as we all know, no one can predict the future which is why God also created within everyone of us a space within our hearts that is made with the express purpose of loving a child that is not of our womb. It has even been designed to love a child no matter what its age may be.

God created all of us uniquely and perfectly to be a mother – so when you are feeling like this is never going to happen for you, or that your body is somehow broken, how it is not fair, and remember this message to you. Remember that you WERE built perfectly to be a mother – even if your internal physical creation is somehow modified or out of place and prevents this journey from being easy.

May God bless all of you with the strength, compassion, understanding and love to create your miracles and to continue to assist the rest of us on the journey with you.