[nelton]

I am sorry to complain but is there any one else that feels like this? I am so irritated! My husband and I have been ttc for 4 months which I know isn't very long, but I know exactly when I O, I can feel it and I have been using the predictor kits and we still have had no luck. My best friend got pg without even trying, 2 of my sister n laws are pg, 4 ladies at work and 2 girls in one of my classes! It seems like everyone is but me! I feel like such a failure, like its never going to happen. I started again today, like clock work, I mean there is NOTHING that would make her be even a day late!!! And the most irritating thing is my Best friend tells me I am putting to much pressure on myself, that it will happen, and all I can think is who is she to say anything, she wasn't even trying when she got pg! She is so lucky she doesn't even know, it doesn't come so easily for everyone and she doesn't get that but she pretends like she does. Its just getting to the point where I am not even happy for her or my sister n laws any more. I mean it is being shoved down my throat! My husbands non pg sister has two kids and is super excited for them and is planning showers and calls me every day for shower stuff, and Im also supposed to be helping with my BF's shower stuff, and every time I see them all it's like a slap in the face. We all went to see one of my sister n laws baby room and i couldn't even be happy! All of this is making me feel even worse! I don't like to be like this it is making me depressed, I need help!

[~April04~]

sorry, but 4 months really isn't long, I know it sucks for it to not happen right away, but it can take up to a year for a normal/healthy couple to get pregnant. And every month, even if everything's timed perfectly, there's only a 20% chance you'll end up pregnant.

[carmz87]

oh its ok i get really grumpy sometimes to! i have been trying for 9 months now and it is hard! i know its frustrating one of my best friends found out she was pregnant to she had been with her boyfriend for one month and wasn't trying it frustrated me a bit but then when i thought about it she didn't purposely do it to rub it in my face and she was a friend in need of help. Also if im there for her when she needs it she will be there for me when i finally get my bfp. i read somewhere (can't remember where) that it takes the average healthy couple at 6 months of bding before they conceive so you have plenty of time to get your BFP! hopefully its soon!!!

[richmond_girl]

April. 4 months isn't long at all, you have a great shot of getting pregnant any month now. But we all know how hard it is to still see everyone around you getting pregnant!! I am sure it will happen for you very soon!!

[snsgirl336]

I also agree that 4 months isn't really that long for ttc... Like April said, it can take a normal healthy couple up to a year to conceive! I know that doesn't make things hurt any less, but try to stay positive and keep at it... I'm sure it'll happen soon!!!

[MomtoKatieB]

I understand about the frustration. It seems like all BIL has to do is share a water glass with a woman to end up fathering a child whereas DH and I want a baby SO bad and although we won't be at the 1 year mark until June, I am ready to scream every month when arrives. I had a doctor's appointment scheduled in January, but then DH was put on temporary lay off status so there went our health insurance so I cancelled the appointment. I am on CD2 and have just decided to NTNP this month.

Just try to stay positive.

[drewbears]

I understand that frustration. We have been at this for 15 months now. Honestly 4 months isn't long at all. It takes on average 3-6 months for the normal couple to get pg, and until you reach a year of trying docs don't seem to think there is an issue, some even longer.

Its depressing to have started TTC with someone who got pg their first cycle, has already had their baby, came back to TTC again and boom pg their first cycle again. 2... and not even another for me.



TTC is not fun.

[~Lynda~]

i know that all the stress we DO put on ourselves is an issue!!!! Stress is the NUMBER ONE reason couples do not conceive. you hear SO many ladies on here telling stories about how their friend wasn't even trying and boom, they are pregnant. well the ones that aren't trying have better odds at it. they aren't stressing about it. i was reading an article about how the stress of AF showing on TTC women, is equal to the stress of a death in the family and that is huge. now i can't judge, cause i did it to myself too. but for me, the longer I was ttc, the less stressed i became over it. i just told myself to let it go, and if it's God's will, then it will happen. We truly can't control this one!!! and I was lucky enough after 13 months of trying, to get pregnant.

I'm so sorry you're frustrated. TTC is a very difficult thing, especially when you have friends/sisters falling pregnant around you. you have to get yourself to a mental state of peace with it. how to do that is different for everyone!!! I wish you much luck and don't give up!! It will happen for you hun!!

HUGS

[SavaAngel]

I know 4 months feels like a long time and I feel for you. By 4 months of TTC, I had 3 new pregnancies and one baby due in just a couple months in just my son's playgroup. Since then, they have all been born and there are 2 more pregnant and one of those is a c-section next week. What frustrates me even more is we got pregnant with my son when we were NTNP our first month. Why is it so hard for me now?

It doesn't get any easier. But like Lynda said - you finally reach a point where you decide if it is meant to be it will happen. This is Month 13 for me.