I have Issues....

snsgirl336 · #1 March 14th, 2009, 10:03 AM

LOL... That's the only way I can think of to say it! It's my MIL... I'm gonna sound completely horrible right now, but I need to get this out and there really isn't anyone else I can vent to.

Let me start by saying I love my MIL. She's an awesome person. We get along great and I'm so lucky to have her for a MIL. Now, that being said, she's driving me nutty! My FIL is in the hospital recovering from his heart surgery and had some complications. He's fine, but they have to continue to monitor him.

Getting any sort of correct info from my MIL is a nightmare. She hears what she wants to hear, takes what she "hears", twists it, and blows it up into a huge thing. She does it with everything. "I went to the grocery store and the peaches were .99 a lb but I had a coupon and just because I'm me, they marked them down to .05 a lb." when in fact she paid 1.99lb.

"Tommy's heart exploded in his chest and they had to take transplant one from a unicorn so now he has magical powers"

She tells everyone completely different stories about how my FIL is doing and then Shawn and I have to go in, get the right info from the Drs and re-tell everyone. I hate having to do that because I have enough on my plate right now with my Mom recovering too and everything with this ttc stuff and my own issues with looming Dr appts. I probably spend 10+ hours a day on the phone telling people "corrected" updates.

I know that this whole ordeal is emotionally and physicall draining, but a horrible part of me thinks she is doing this all for the attention. DH has complained about all of this to me (on his own doing) and he's just as sick of it as I am! I just hate pushing the subject with him cause I don't want him to think I'm attacking his mom.

I went out for a run to try to clear my head, but I just kept running and running and running and thinking about it! I'll probably run off all my extra weight if she keeps this up

(which wouldn't be a bad thing). I needed to get out of the house and away from her! So, when I end up 100lbs, and passed out on the side of the road, it's probably cause my MIL has driven me to run to death! LOL. Ok, Done ranting now! Thanks for putting up with me! You guys have kept me from losing it so many times over the past few weeks and I'm so appreciative!

richmond_girl · #2 March 14th, 2009, 10:13 AM

LOL I know people just like your MIL - they exxagerate EVERYTHING. I'm sorry Cris!! But sounds like you are handling it great and I'm sure everyone appreciates you getting the "real" story each and every time.

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~Lynda~ · #3 March 14th, 2009, 12:27 PM

keep running girl, it will help in so many ways!!!! vent here, that's what we are here for!!!!

HUGS

Soape · #4 March 14th, 2009, 07:19 PM

i have a MIL just like that. I'm truly sorry you are having such a rough time right now. Somethings have to start looking up.

KDD · #5 March 14th, 2009, 07:42 PM

My friend's MIL is just like that. It drives them all nuts! Hopefully your FIL will recover quickly, we'd hate to see you in the hospital with him (that is, after someone finds you passed out on the side of the road!).

Christine-MA · #6 March 15th, 2009, 05:20 AM

Sorry Cris! I dated someone that did similar things...he would tell a story, then the person would ask me what really happened! It's draining. Sorry you have to deal with this with so much on your plate right now.

~*Jackie*~ · #7 March 15th, 2009, 07:33 AM

ASH_M · #8 March 15th, 2009, 08:31 AM

Ugh, my own mother is just like that. What's the point?! I just don't get it.

Well, I hope things calm down for you soon.

snsgirl336 · #9 March 16th, 2009, 12:46 PM

Aww, thank you girls! I knew that I could count on you to let me vent (yet again!). She did it all day Sunday too and my FIL started doing it too. I finally put my foot down and fought them on something right in the hospital and my DH and his Grandma actually thanked me for doing it! I was figuring I'd be the family outcast for doing it, but I guess not! It felt so good to get something like that off my chest!

Running has really been a great way for me to try to clear my head, so I'm gonna keep on doing it! Thankfully the weather is getting nicer cause I'm sure the next few weeks are going to be stressful as my FIL comes home from the Hospital tomorrow! DH laughs and says that he wants me to come run sprints with his lacrosse team. He says that being beaten by "Coach's Wife" will certainly light a fire under his kids feet!

SavaAngel · #10 March 16th, 2009, 12:52 PM

Good Luck with all of that Cris. I hope your FIL gets to come home soon.

snsgirl336 · #11 March 16th, 2009, 01:16 PM

Thanks Christina! He's supposed to be coming home tomorrow, so no more visits to the Hospital! Unless he needs to go back in for a pace maker... but that won't be right away and it'll be in the hospital that is closer! Thankfully! I tell ya, the next time I want to be in a hospital is because I'm delivering my Baby!!!

Hopingfor1soon · #12 March 16th, 2009, 03:43 PM

Ugh...ILs! haha I have some issues with mine too...I am thinking I should take up running off my steam too...and I would be down LOTS of extra weight too! haha Sorry its so frustrating though!

snsgirl336 · #13 March 17th, 2009, 09:50 AM

Thanks Alicia... I'm starting to get over this (then again I haven't seen either of my in-laws in a few days) so that's a good thing. I just don't get it cause we really usually get along really well. Oh well. I'm sure it's just the stress we're all under!