[ASH_M]

I need to vent.

Ok, I may just be overreacting and need someone to talk some sense into me perhaps. We've been trying for 7 months now to get pregnant. I feel like I am constantly doing something or thinking something that has to do with TTC. I can never turn it off. Checking temp, checking CM, checking cervical position, researching. The only thing that DH has to do is take care of himself. I have asked him on multiple occassions to use a pillow or something underneath his laptop (he's a grad student and is using his laptop probably 85% of his waking day). I'm really worried that he's hurting his spermies from all the heat. He just doesn't think about it. I got so fed up about it two months ago, I threw a pillow at him and bluntly said, "Use it." The past couple months he's been doing more work at his office, so I haven't really been noticing him using it on his lap. But last night when he went out with the guys, I told him to not drink too much because it was a fertile night for me. He came home at a decent time, but he immediately got on the computer to see how his basketball bracket is turning out, and that turned into a two-hour session on the computer. Not only was a frustrated about that, but he had the laptop sitting right ontop of his crotch the whole time. I didn't say anything - I almost feel like I shouldn't have to say anything about it anymore since I've made my feelings perfectly clear. Anyways, so two hours pass, we finally go to bed, and he tells me he's really tired. I was so upset, after all that, I didn't know what to do. So I just said fine, rolled over, and quietly cried myself to sleep.

Am I totally overreacting here? Or is there some merit to wanting him to use some protection from his laptop? Ugh.

[Jarheadwed]

Oh sweetie! Here is a snopes.com article on it.

http://www.snopes.com/medical/toxins/laptop.

To be safe, I think he should use a pillow or laptop tray. Show him this article, discuss how you feel, and see what he says. I would tell him, nicely, how frustrating it is that you are doing so much to get a BFP and you would appreciate it if he could do this for you.

[Christine-MA]

Just fixing Katey's link..... http://www.snopes.com/medical/toxins/laptop.asp

It's definitely something I should talk to DH about. He's on the laptop for probably 10+ hours a day (on his lap).

[snsgirl336]

I've had to have the discussion with my DH before. He's not on his laptop nearly as much as your's, but I was still concerned. I showed him some research and told him that TTC is stressful enough on the both of us, and that since there's only so much we can do to increase our chances, we should do it all and hopefully get pregnant that much sooner. He's been great ever since our talk (with the occasional reminder)

I hope your DH listens to you and cooperates!

[ASH_M]

Thanks for the support ladies. I guess I'll bring it up once more to him, if I see him do it again. Ugh.