At a StandStill (rant)

bhonea · #1 April 28th, 2009, 08:19 AM

So I went to the Dr. yesterday and he did prescribe me Clomid. I even asked if I would be allowed to travel to Hawaii in October is the Clomid worked and ended up pregnant. He said he would let me travel until 32 weeks.

Dh and I had been on a ttc break since February. I had pushed the thought of babies out of my mind, until I was prescribed the clomid. Now I want to go back at it full force. Dh on the other hand is more reluctant. He wants us to enjoy ourselves when we go on vacation. We're going with another couple who enjoys thier drinks, and dh usually joins in on the fun. I have never been much of a drinker, and I usually end up being the sober one who puts everyone to bed. Dh asked me if I were pregnant during our trip would I get mad if he drank. I just got so upset with him. I was upset that his head even went there! We've been trying to have a baby for almost a year and a half and this is the first time that I felt like we were not on the same page. I'm trying to be understanding and reasonable. I know that he's looking at this trip as our last hurrah before baby is in the picture. I just feel like we've waited so long already, I don't want to put off ttc for another 6 months!

Hopingfor1soon · #2 April 28th, 2009, 08:32 AM

I am so sorry that things are so hard!! And I am sorry that your DH said that. My DH did something similar when we were on our injectables cycle last October. He had enough nerve to ask me if he could still go to Hawaii with his family if I wasnt allowed to because I was pregnant. Needless to say it didnt matter cause it failed anyways, but I know how upsetting those type of comments can be!! I hope you start feeling better soon and that the CLomid does the trick!!

bhonea · #3 April 28th, 2009, 08:39 AM

Thanks Alicia. If Jeff had even thought about asking me that one, he would have ended up in the dog house for sure!

snsgirl336 · #4 April 28th, 2009, 09:11 AM

It's funny how mencan be so insensitive sometimes. I know my DH can take the cake on that one! I'm sorry that your DH is putting you in the position he is. Hopefully you guys can talk and come to a mutual compromise.

~*Jackie*~ · #5 April 28th, 2009, 09:37 AM

I agree with Cris about the compromise... you both need to be on the same page through this, and hopefully he'll come around if you talk about it more.

Soape · #6 April 28th, 2009, 11:45 AM

I pray that ya;ll can get on the same page. It's hard sometimes. I think that each of us have had the thought at one time or another that DH and them are not on the same page. It can give you a sense of insecurity. I pray that this passes fast.

~Lynda~ · #7 April 28th, 2009, 12:44 PM

G/L with the clomid, just attack your man and he will surrender!!!!

bhonea · #8 April 28th, 2009, 02:39 PM

Lol Lynda! Thanks girls. I told dh how I felt about us already having to wait for our baby these past 18 months and that I'm tired of waiting. I want to seriously try. he said okay. he's one of those who doesn't get excited until something actually happens. I know he worries about being a good father, but just the fact that he's worrying about it tells me how great he'll be at raising our children.

SavaAngel · #9 April 28th, 2009, 04:23 PM

Men have a knack for opening their mouth and inserting there foot don't they!

Good Luck with the clomid. I hope it works quickly for you with minimal side effects.

Men have a knack for opening their mouth and inserting there foot don't they!

Good Luck with the clomid. I hope it works quickly for you with minimal side effects.