[SavaAngel]

I was talking to my MIL about the disagreement the other day and she said a couple things that I had to deep breathe through without lashing out about it.

First she said - "You don't need a Reproductive Endocrinologist at your age". Then she had the nerve to say, "doesn't it happen if you stop trying so hard".

So I breathed deeply and then said - An RE will probably up my clomid and monitor me every few days by u/s and my OB won't. And we tried not trying so hard for a long time and that didn't work either.

All she said after that was "oh" and changed the subject, but I was still livid. I am done talking to my MIL about my TTC woes!

[~*Jackie*~]

Ugh, I'm sorry you had to deal with that. This is why only a few people in my life know about this situation.

[MommaLee]

I refuse to talk to family about this....seems that everyone has an opinion. GEEZ...

[Soape]

I'm soooo sorry. Ive had the same thing recently. I have decided that the only people that we are going to talk to about our TTC journey will be each other, you gals, and a small (meaning 3-4) really close friends. I've come up with this conclussion. IF you can't be supportive 100% for us during this really challenging time then you have closed the door for communcation between you and I. I did it with my mom and my best friend of 11 years. I pray that you know that you are surrounded by love and support.

[SavaAngel]

Thank you so much everyone. What is almost worse is that it took her 9 years to conceive my DH after they had my SIL! We didn't say anything to them about us trying until I was going to need her to watch AJ for doctor's appts and figured I could only lie about so many OB appts before she came to her own conclusions.

I already don't talk to my family much about it - they live half a country away from me and we rarely talk. On top of that I don't know what will be said to my mother via ANYONE or how something I say could be taken out of context or completely changed (yes that is the type of family I have). So now I have DH (though we aren't talking about TTC too much right now) and you guys and a few friends of mine in AJ's playgroup.

[KDD]

I'm sorry that she was so insensitive.

I agree with the others, we haven't shared our TTC journey with very many people IRL.

[snsgirl336]

Ugh, I'm sorry that she's being so insensitive... that isn't cool at all.

We've told NO one in real life that we're trying, and it's just easier that way for us. I can understand about your situation though with needing her to watch AJ... Hopefully she'll realize that she shouldn't make those kind of comments!

[hearts.0nfire]

I'm sorry about her being insensitive. Not many people know about it with us too.

[LisaBrown]

Same here! We've mentioned it to our families and to our closest friends, but we don't really talk about it often. They just know that we are off BC and not preventing, but they don't really even know the half of it! I don't want anyone judging or medling in our business, so we try to keep quiet about TTC most of the time.

[~Lynda~]

i know it sounds harsh, but i find that talking to NO ONE about it, except you ladies and DH, is the way to go. Keeps me less stressed. Cause too many people have opinions I don't want to hear!!! sorry you have to go through it christina!!! HUGS

[Hopingfor1soon]

Ugh Im so sorry hun!!! Some people can be so insensitive! My mother is the exact same way!