[Wallflower]

I just found out that another one of my good friends is pregnant. I'm very happy for her of course, but it's also really hard. I know everyone on JM knows how I feel. Everytime I hear about another one getting pregnant, and I am fairly certain (based on things they said) that it didn't take them long at all to conceive once they decided to start trying, it just makes me feel like I am getting left behind. And they're my age too. I can't help but think, why not me? I know I really haven't been at this that long, compared with a lot of women on here, but it just seems like after several cycles of what appears to be really good timing, we would have gotten pregnant by now. I just feel awful.

[Soape]

I'm sorry that you are having to go through that. Your right everyone on here has experienced the same thing. I wish I had some wonderful words of advice but it still cuts like a knife everytime i see someone getting pregnant and then 9 months later delivering their bundle of joy. I try to enjoy their happy moments with them and then explain to them that there are good days and bad days for me and pray that they understand.

[LisaBrown]

I'm so sorry you're going through a hard time right now. Lots of And know that you are not alone and our time has to come sometime, right?

[jenisuzy]

I cant tell you how many other friends/cousins/family/neighbors (what seems like hundreds) who are pregnant or in the past yr. had kids. I was just thinking the other day that maybe it would make me feel better if I focused on those I know who do NOT have kids like me & really just like you, after several cycles of what appears to be really good timing I havent figured out what our issue is either. I've been off the pill for #16 cycles now, with regular cycles 25-28 days and what appears to be that I do indeed ovulate by using BBT/OPK to show that. So I dont have answers but broke down & made an appt to go talk to my doc. I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulder & hopefully will feel better after talking to my doc. My DH is "whatever happens, happens" He would be perfectly fine without kids but if it happens ok. That is a whole other issue but I just want you to know you arent alone !!

[snsgirl336]

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this. I'm sorry that any of us have to deal with it. It's certainly not fair! Just know that we're all here for you and we've all been in similar situations. Lots of coming your way!

[Wallflower]

Thanks ladies! I knew you would understand better than anyone else! I am trying very hard to just be happy for my friends and trust that God's timing for us is perfect.

[LucyAnna]

i have to say that I completely understand. 1 of my friends who started to ttc in october of last year, we talked about being prego at the same time and well, she got pg that month and just had her baby. Another friend of mine, kind of the same thing, and she got pg the first month. so it is still just me, all these babies, all these pregnancies. My SIL is trying too, and I am sure (with the way things have been going) she will get pg right away too. i am excited for all these great ladies, but I just wish it could be my turn. so i can relate 100%. we just have to stick together!

[KDD]

We have all been there. None of my friends IRL understand what it's like to do everything right cycle after cycle and not get pg. I don't wish this frustration on anyone, but why can't they have to try for at least 6 months instead of succeeding on their first try? It's definitely not fair.

[Wallflower]

Yeah I know! One of my friends I am pretty much positive they tried one month and got pg! It's such a hard thing b/c I really am happy for them, but can't help feeling kind of bereft or something. I guess I just feel left behind. I know it's not supposed to be some kind of contest or race, but shouldn't those of us who started trying first reach the goal first?

[SavaAngel]

I am so sorry you are dealing with this, but I have to tell you we are all there right with you. I swore for awhile that God was testing my sanity - every one of my friends got pregnant and had their babies since I started trying!

[Wallflower]

Seems to be how it goes, doesn't it?

[aaclzamora]

*HUGS* I know how you feel. And apparently we're in a baby boom (I forgot where I heard that--maybe on the radio), so pregnant women and babies are EVERYWHERE! Our day will come. But until then *HUGS*

[Wallflower]

Originally Posted by aaclzamora

*HUGS* I know how you feel. And apparently we're in a baby boom (I forgot where I heard that--maybe on the radio), so pregnant women and babies are EVERYWHERE! Our day will come. But until then *HUGS*

I KNEW it!! I knew I wasn't just imagining that!

[~Lynda~]

hugs to you girl!!! i'm going through that too!!!!

[Wallflower]

Seems like a lot of us are!

[~*Jackie*~]

Just sending some more hugs and letting you know you have yet another lady here in your corner understanding what you're feeling. It stinks. It WILL be our turn one day.... right?