[trying41more]

my friend (i've known her since 5th grade) was talking to me tonight.. and she was asking me " what should i do.." there is this guy that she has had like this KING size crush on since like forever..ever since she meet this guy.. well they never got the chance to date or go out with each other when they were teenagers.. and were able to (b/c her parents wouldn't let her go out much.. unless if it was to come hang out with me..but like not to date boys) well now they are both married..and the guy told her that he really wishes they could have been together back then.. and they both still like each other a lot.. but now.. at the same time.. they are both married to other people.. and they love their spouses they ended up getting married to.. now i think she is having regrets maybe.. i know she seems happily married.. and i want to help her and give her aadvice.. i just dont know what to tell her.. ne advice?? please help!!

[SavaAngel]

I would stress to try to make it work with current hubby. Doing something she might regret in the long run will just hurt everyone involved.

[Soape]

I can't say that I have a lot of advice to give, other than "the grass is always greener on the other side, until you get there". If she is truly happily married then she needs to focus on that and not go looking in her past trying to fufill dreams. That's a really tough position for you to be in.

[trying41more]

Originally Posted by Soape

I can't say that I have a lot of advice to give, other than "the grass is always greener on the other side, until you get there". If she is truly happily married then she needs to focus on that and not go looking in her past trying to fufill dreams. That's a really tough position for you to be in.

YES.. thats what i was telling her.. I had said.. what if you leave ur hubby ur married to now.. and things dont work out with the one you thought u should be with.. all things happen for a reason..and yea.. it is kinda an odd spot to be.. i told her i would try to give her the best advice i could.. i just dont want to be the one in the middle.. but last night.. i didnt even know what to say more less.. i couldn't hardly get to sleep last night.. but i just need to tell her again if she brings it up to just figure it out.. and maybe she needs think about things.. sigh.. i'm happy you girls are here so i can talk about things that bother me..

Originally Posted by SavaAngel

I would stress to try to make it work with current hubby. Doing something she might regret in the long run will just hurt everyone involved.

yea.. kinda what i said up there ^^ i really think she has some regrets about her past.. and maybe feels like she didn't get a fair chance back then..i know how her parents treated her.. they never let her go out alone with a guy at all.. so never got the freedom she should have had... and like i said before.. i just didnt know what to even tell her.. i guess she figured since we talk about everything else this wouldn't matter i guess.. lol

[~Lynda~]

tell her to run far from the other guy!!! she has vows to her husband and the temptation seems to be there for her/him. so she needs to get him out of her life totally!!!! she will totally screw up her life if she gets involved with this other guy. Not to mention her DH who has trust in her. If you don't have trust, you have nothing!!!! run, and run fast!!!

[trying41more]

well i spoke to her again last night and told her (pretty much what lynda just said) i told her its not worth losing your marriage over this .. and the guy is the past.. and things didnt work out for a reason.. i told her to just make things easier on herself is to stop talking to him... if he tries just ignor him.. that she has a great hubby that loves her.

(this topic is closed .. pls no more replies.. thanks for the advice i got.. its all over with now )

[Ash]

I know you wanted no more replies, but I have just two words....

MARRIAGE VOWS!

[trying41more]

yea.. thats how i fell too.. i love james.. and i would never even concider another guy.. its dumb.. and the reason i said no more replies.. was b/c it was stressing me out.. b/c i was put in a rough spot.. but i just didnt know what to think about it.. but i do thank you girls for helping me.. (so Ash.. ur ok) i just dont want to keep thinking about it.. trying to ignor it in fact lol