[snsgirl336]

spend over an hour today on the internet researching adoption? We haven't talked about adoption much at all, but today for some reason I found myself looking for information on it. Weird, right? I mean we haven't even really started into MA yet and here I am researching adoption. I'm not against it, in fact I think it would be a wonderful thing to give a child a loving secure home who might otherwise not have one, but I don't think we've exhausted our options as far as ttc yet. It's just strange... maybe it's some kind of intuition

[~*Jackie*~]

Maybe it's just for the education value. It never hurts to know too much about this stuff, but I know what you mean... HUGS

[Ash]

Cris, I don't think it's weird at all. I have spent a lot of time researching it also. I think for those of us who have been trying a while, it's a realistic possibility. Don't feel bad or weird about it. I say embrace it!

BTW...I met a girl today that tried and tried and finally resorted to adoption and she has a set of 19 month old twins that she adopted! How cool is that??

[snsgirl336]

Thanks Jackie and Ash... you're both right. I'm probably realizing that I'm at a point where it could become a reality for us. It can be such a long process that maybe it's a good thing to start looking into it now so I'm prepared if that's what it comes to.

That is really awesome about that woman and her twins. Not to sound corny, but it just warms my heart to hear about stories like that.

[Soape]

Michael and I have always wanted to adopt. I agree with all of you when you said that it's something that you have to think about when you've been going at it for so long. I was adopted and I think that it is incredible to be able to do that for others.

[SavaAngel]

I agree it is something to think about. Whether we have more children biologically or not, we want to adopt too!

[BabyBird]

I did the same thing before I got pg this time. I was at work one day and I couldn't stop thinking about how we might never have a baby and started looking things up online. DH and I had never even really talked about it so he was shocked when I called and told him what I had learned. I was just so frustrated and thought if we could just adopt one now then we could take our time and work on a bio baby. It was really for the wrong reasons and I realized that later. I think adoption is great but it was really bad timing for us and it was just because I was feeling desperate at the time. It isn't a bad thing to research your options though. I know once you get started with MA things will change for you and I can't wait for you to be pg!

[trying41more]

i do not think its weird.. i have even looked and done research.. i might someday adopt a baby.. or a child.. but i would love to be pregnant at least one more time

[Kari_B]

I spent the last afternoon researching and looking at options. We are at a point that IVF is in our near future. We have to decide if we want to pay for IVF or pay for adoption... we can't do both.

Where did you friend find twins... that is something I would LOVE to be able to do. Adoption siblings or multiple newborns!

[snsgirl336]

Originally Posted by Soape

Michael and I have always wanted to adopt. I agree with all of you when you said that it's something that you have to think about when you've been going at it for so long. I was adopted and I think that it is incredible to be able to do that for others.

I didn't realize you were adopted Amanda. It really is incredible to be able to give a child a wonderful home. One of my best friends from High school was adopted and I always admired his parents for doing that.

Originally Posted by SavaAngel

I agree it is something to think about. Whether we have more children biologically or not, we want to adopt too!

Yeah, I think at this point researching all the information (Gosh there is a TON out there) can only be beneficial.

Originally Posted by BabyBird

I did the same thing before I got pg this time. I was at work one day and I couldn't stop thinking about how we might never have a baby and started looking things up online. DH and I had never even really talked about it so he was shocked when I called and told him what I had learned. I was just so frustrated and thought if we could just adopt one now then we could take our time and work on a bio baby. It was really for the wrong reasons and I realized that later. I think adoption is great but it was really bad timing for us and it was just because I was feeling desperate at the time. It isn't a bad thing to research your options though. I know once you get started with MA things will change for you and I can't wait for you to be pg!

I think I was having the same feelings of frustration like you described which brought me to Google. I know that we won't even really think about starting the adoption process until we're at the point where IVF is our last option because it's so expensive and really carries no guarantees. I know that my DH is no where near ready to think about that yet.

Originally Posted by graciesmommie

i do not think its weird.. i have even looked and done research.. i might someday adopt a baby.. or a child.. but i would love to be pregnant at least one more time

I guess research never hurts, right- and if we don't adopt, having all that knowledge might be able to help me if I ever have a family member or friend who is! I could be a good support to them.

Originally Posted by Kari_B

I spent the last afternoon researching and looking at options. We are at a point that IVF is in our near future. We have to decide if we want to pay for IVF or pay for adoption... we can't do both.

Where did you friend find twins... that is something I would LOVE to be able to do. Adoption siblings or multiple newborns!

We're thinking that financially we'll be in the same boat- it will likely be either IVF or adoption (if that's what it comes to in the future). It's a hard decision to make for sure and I've barely begun research!