[fussmommy]

Has anyone experienced this? I can't get DH to do his part regarding testing...says it is humiliating as well as not the "Christian" thing to do....if God wants us to have a baby, he will bless us with one. Also states that NOTHING is wrong with him. This may very well be true, I already know that I have PCOS and have never ovulated regularly.

Anyway, looking for suggestions on how to get him to do this small task.

[Blue Eyes 409]

Wow well MY DH and I had talked about him going in and getting checked so I did not have that problem. But I did see at Walgreen that they had a over the counter test that a man can do. I hope that you get some answers.

[~Jess~]

I was going to suggest the at-home test from walgreens too. If he won't do it, then just act all sexy next time you bd and tell him to squirt it all over your "tits" (that word always works on my dh-lol) and then run and test it. LOL. He never has to know-wink-wink.

[sweetwish1]

I was so proud of my husband, he really didn't put up too much of a fuss in going to the doctor. My gyno suggested that he have a sperm analysis to start with and it came back that he had a low count and low volume. I do not ovulate regularly and am now in month 3 of clomid, so we found out that in a way we were working against each other! After this my husband was referred to a urologist. It took almost two months to get in. He had his appt on March 1. He said it really wasn't as bad as he expected it to be. He was really relieved to have it over with. We received results back and no problems have been detected. So he has to submit some more sperm samples over the next few weeks. Other than working around dr. appts it hasn't been much trouble for him. The dr. has given him some useful advice. I really wasn't a bad experience for him. I hope this helps!!

[alexa]

My DH orginally said he would have a SA, no problem. Then I think he thought more about it and thought it would be really awkward and embarrasing. So he keeps putting it off. I found out that he would not have to do it in the office and that I could even pick up the collection kit bring it home, have him do it at home and then I could bring it back. He seemed to like that idea and seemed more open to it.

We have not done that yet because right now I know something is weird with my long irregular cycles with questionable ovualtion. So I am going to the doctor next week to discuss my issues and depending on the answers we will get DH a SA. I figured no point in having him do it yet if I know things are not right with me.

I would talk to your DH about doing it at home and tell him you could drop it off. I think it would be helpful to know either way. Either it is what you suspect and he is perfectly normal, or if not then at least you would know that you might have to take some additional steps to getting that BFP.

[sierrasmommy02tt#2]

hi this is my first time posting in the 6months plus board im usually on the general ttc board but i read this and it reminded me of my DH. He was ok with it when i brought it to his attention and then when it was time he had every excuss in the book! lol i dont blame him though the biggest thing is just like us they dont want to hear that something is wrong with them and we were able to do it at home and he still threw a fit. we had did the deed and he was supposed to pull out into the cup and of course he forgot to. lol well i threw a fit and made him do round two that same min and of course it came back bad bc it was premature so of course he didnt want to do it after that. we talked and tried again three days later the best way i would say is just go down on him have the cup handy and when it time grab the sample real quick and take it to the lab being his wife you'll be able to do all the paper work, but i was able to talk him into taking it in and everything was fine with that specimen. LOL sorry this is soo long but thought i would share our fight in it all. Good Luck hun and i know you wanna work out yourself first but alot of doctors want that anyways just to know the whole situation of things bc if there is something wrong with you and they fix it it still raises the question of is Dhs sperm ok.

Good Luck
Tasha

[rinty68]

Been there!

My DB felt too embarrased to go for SA so...
I got the revelant forms and btl etc and he did what he needed to do,
Then i took the sample to the hospital myself!

Men are too precious at times. lokk what us women have to endure!

At least it got done! I would suggest this as a good option.
He has no worries, you are the one taking it there, then DH just has
to go the DR a few wks later for results, Which my DB did and all was fine thank god.

Good luck!! They are sooooo difficult

Sarah

[BobbiC]

I am in the same situation right now. DH said he will have it done but keeps putting it off. He says he is scared it will come back that he is the problem. I would like to know one way or the other so that we can deal with it.
I am making another appt with my doc for ttc and am going to ask him if he can do the test for him.