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December 4th, 2009, 05:35 PM
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Platinum Supermommy
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I have been watching Baby Story, Adoption Story, etc. today and they all keep saying "now we are a family" when their baby is born or the adopt. So it got me thinking, what constitutes being a family? What if we are never able to have kids? Does that mean we aren't a family? Are we just "a couple"? I have to admit in nearly two years of trying I have never thought about this, but now suddenly it has me really sad. I want people to look at DH and I and think of us as a family, but now I am thinking maybe that may not be the case.
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December 4th, 2009, 07:12 PM
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The day I got married, I told DH that we were now each other's family. That was before ttc, before infertility, before surgeries, etc. I felt that we were a family just the two of us and just hoped to add to it down the road. You and Nate are a family. You both and your puppies are a family. HUGS- stop watching those shows! 
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December 4th, 2009, 07:56 PM
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You are right, Jackie! I need to turn off the TV! LOL!
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December 4th, 2009, 08:32 PM
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Lurker. Don't even think about it. You can even be a family of one when you are a bachelor. It's just a figure of speech. Nothing to it 
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December 4th, 2009, 09:08 PM
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I completely agree with the other girls...it isn't how many kids you have, how many pets you have, where you live, or anything else that makes you a family...it's what's in your heart that makes you a family 
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December 5th, 2009, 09:04 AM
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I COMPLETELY agree with Jackie. Jason and I always call ourselves a family. Us and Jake and Molly (  ) our puppies. I definitely feel that we are now, but I understand the feeling of completetion when you have a baby. I feel like it will just add to the wonderful family that we already are!  You guys are family Ash!!
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December 5th, 2009, 11:14 AM
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Jason and I have always considered us to be a family. We always say that we are having "family time" when we're sitting on the couch together cuddling with the cats.
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December 6th, 2009, 04:26 PM
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Ash! I posted something on Randy's facebook the other day (like the day before you posted this) about "can't wait for our little family" and I was afraid it's what got you upset Then I realized I don't even think you're friends with him so you probably wouldn't have even seen it. But regardless, I've seen it said on those shows as well. But even before I was pregnant, I always considered Randy and I a family (and his family my family and vice versa). You're not "just a couple" even though I don't want to make that sound like it's negative.
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December 6th, 2009, 07:07 PM
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haha....Christine! I didn't see anything like that on his page. I just started thinking about it after watching those shows on Friday. I mean, I know we ARE a family, but I wonder what outsiders looking in think. I guess I shouldn't care. It's just funny to me that in 2 years, I never thought about it until now. LOL!
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December 6th, 2009, 09:03 PM
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I couldn't agree with Jackie more... You guys are a family- no matter how big or small. And when you do have your baby (It WILL HAPPEN!), you'll simply be "adding to your family" and it will be wonderful!
Last edited by snsgirl336; December 6th, 2009 at 09:05 PM.
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December 7th, 2009, 08:37 AM
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I agree with Jackie, but I have to admit that SOME outsiders that don't understand what you are going through will think you aren't truly a family cause you don't have children, but you ARE!
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