[~Lynda~]

hi gals, i'm trying to stay positive about my ttc journey, but it's getter almost impossible now. i was telling my friend that we are going to try three more cycles unassisted and save tons of money. Then we were going to go and talk to an RE and see what assistance we can afford. her response to me was, "well duh, obviously there is something seriously wrong" - i was stunned!

[scunch]

Sorry, sounds like your friend was rather harsh.

[MommaLee]

Have you done any testing yet (sorry I can't remember)?

I wouldn't listen to your friend, what the doctors did find with us (high semen viscosity and cervical stenosis) they quickly ruled out as a cause for infertility. I'm chalking taking it 19 months to conceive just as BAD LUCK!

Here's to a successful natural cycle!

[~*Jackie*~]

If they haven't been through infertility, then they don't understand.

[~Lynda~]

we haven't done testing cause we've been able to get pregnant in the past. Just lost the pregnancies. so my dr. said since we've been able to get pregnant, there probably was no need for testing. well, i think perhaps the need is now there. but our insurance covers nothing so we have to do some serious saving to proceed forward. we said we were going to leave it in God's hands and if it's not meant to be then so be it. but the aweful thing I didn't plan on was getting pregnant and losing those pregnancies. if I had never gotten pregnant, then it would be a different story for ME. But it's like God dangled the dreams of a future with another baby in front of me, and then just as quick as it came, it was gone. I got a taste of success without the true success. so now we are left wanting it even more than when we started!

and yes jacs, she has never had to deal with infertility. but she was just so nasty, i could hardly believe it! i just don't think i have it in me to be that nasty to someone, even someone who wasn't my friend.

thanks for the responses ladies, sometimes it just helps to talk about it!

[KDD]

I'm sorry that your friend was so nasty.

[Brandielou]

Ouch! I'm so sorry

Maybe all you will need is some Clomid or something similar. From what I've read, it is easy to get pregnant but it does start to drop off after some time, I've seen ladies on JM that already have several kids and are moving to IVF. That is one reason DH and I have talked about if we (ever) get pregnant, depending on how everything goes, to not prevent afterward, even if we get pregnant soon after giving birth because this has been such a long journey for us.

I hope that the testing goes well, and maybe you'll get that BFP before you even have to worry about it all!

[SavaAngel]

Ouch. Gee, could she have been more harsh! I agree with Jackie - people who don't go through it don't understand. I have to bite my tongue when "friends" feel they need to give me advice.

[ashnichole2326]

I know how you feel...honestly, my best friend seems to be rather rude to me when it comes to TTC too...I never know whether or not I should be angry, but I usually am anyhow...

Sorry you are having such a tough time...there's always a chance until you give up though . I think TTC is the hardest thing I have gone through in my life, honestly...I think it takes a lot out of all of us, and I feel it has made me a different person in a lot of ways... it really forces you into being more patient for sure...there are always tough days, tough weeks and tough months....but all in all, I feel like I am lot better tempered now than I was 9 months ago...I deal with other things in my life more calmly at least...lol

I wish you the best of luck in figuring everything out, and getting a sticky BFP!!