[samspain]

My sister had a baby 4 weeks ago, (she told us she was pg the month we started trying) and this morning I found out my sister in law is pg too. She is due in December. I am happy for her, but of course then she says, we werent trying, we really wanted to wait a bit longer between them, and kept going on about how difficult it is and how she wishes it was in 6 months time. I feelso mean that I cant be 100% happy for her.

Does this happen to others too? or am I just a meanie?

[Hopingfor1soon]

You are so NOT mean! This happens to me all time! I have a really hard time being happy for anyone that has any complaints about being pregnant. Pregnancy and children are such a gift don't complain people! Lol

[SKGirl]

I am with you on this. My cousin's wife just became pg (12 weeks along) and she complains about how tired she is with her pregnancy. I keep thinking I would love to be tired and have morning sickness if it meant I could have another baby in the end.

[SavaAngel]

I agree, it's not mean. And you aren't alone.

I felt the same way every time one of my friends got pregnant. I was happy for them in a way and in another way I didn't want to be around them, talk to them, etc. I even avoided quite a few of them while pregnant/after baby came.

[~Lynda~]

if that means your a meanie, then i must be too, cause i've been in that situation before and felt the same way!!! it's pretty normal hun!!! it's very hard to see people having something we want so badly but have almost no control over!!! hugs to you!

[SarieP]

You are not a meanie! We have to go through so much to get something that other people are not grateful for and it's very frustrating. I just told a "friend" of ours what I thought of them a couple weeks ago because I couldn't stand listening to her crap anymore. They are too irresponisble and I got tired of her throwing her pregnancy in my face! You are totally normal to feel this way!

[samspain]

I´m glad I´m not alone, but it just seems my entire family is getting pg recently!

[wishfulgal]

You aren't mean
When 5, count 'em, 5, of my friends announced their pregnancies within a week of each other, I had a hard time being happy for any of them except one who I knew had been trying for awhile. I especially had a hard time being happy for the 2 of them who said they were "oopses". I know that oopses happen (for some people ), but at this point I really don't want to hear how easily pregnancy comes for some people while I've had to pray and cry and wait to get pregnant both times we've tried.

[KDD]

You are not alone! I definitely feel the same way. It's not fair that some people get pg without trying, while some of us literally have to try everything!

I remember being at a candle party and 2 of the women were complaining about how hard life is with a new baby. I just wanted to scream at them "but you have healthy, living babies in your arms. Shut up!"

[happymommy2010]

Hi! I am new here just wanted to say you are not mean at all. WE are ttcal and two of my good friends and I were due within days of eachother. Its so hard listening to them talk about the joys and discomforts of being pregant. On the day one of them is having her baby (planned csection) I have scheduled a mini vacation!!!