Can I join here?

hubshope · #1 June 24th, 2010, 05:56 AM

Hi Ladies, I was wondering if I can join you all...I'm not sure if someone with children can join or not. I have two beautiful boys, and got pregnant with our third July 09 and miscarried in August 09. Since then we've TTC #3 and just have not been successful. We didn't try didn't prevent through Dec 09 and started really trying in Jan. It's been one BFN after another with only a month or two where we didn't really try but we didn't prevent.
I'm very down now. It's been more like a year, but the really hard trying (with charting and stuff) didn't begin to january...so six months.
I am very thankful for my boys and know I'm extremely lucky to even have them...so I'm trying to let go and let God. But we'd love another baby so badly...and even hope for a girl to balance the family, but that doesn't really matter much, we just want another tiny tot around here, boy or girl.

Lately I'm very depressed and thinking it will never happen. I seem to see babies all around me and don't understand why it's suddenly so hard to conceive. I think because we're coming up on a year since we m/c I'm especially upset.

Anyway, if you'll have me over here I'd like to join...though admittedly I don't get on everyday. And good luck to all of you TTC...especially TTC your firsts. I hope you all get your dreams come true!

~*Jackie*~ · #2 June 24th, 2010, 07:24 AM

Of course you can join here! Many of the ladies here are dealing with not being able to get pregnant again. Unfortunately, there's also a large group of us struggling to become first time mommies as well!

I'm Jackie (28), my DH is Jon (30 in a week!), and we've been trying for our first since December of '07- dealing with slight MFI and extreme endometriosis. I hope your stay is short and sweet!

hubshope · #3 June 24th, 2010, 11:57 AM

Thank you, Jackie for welcoming me. I hope you get a very sticky BFP very soon. I cannot imagine having been trying for so long...I haven't been trying nearly as long as you and it has me so down. I will pray for you that you get to have a little one in 2011!!!

I'm Amy (32) and DH is Steve (47). We've been together 10 years, married for 6 1/2.

snsgirl336 · #4 June 25th, 2010, 08:08 AM

Welcome Amy! I'm so sorry that you're struggling with ttc. I hope that you're journey comes to an end soon with a beautiful sticky BFP and you can graduate on ot of here!

I'm Cris married to Shawn and we've been ttc our first for almost 3 years with a loss in December. We've got "unexplained infertility" and we're currently waiting on our new insurance to kick in so we can get back into MA and do another IUI.

Good luck and I look forward to getting to know you!!!

hubshope · #5 June 25th, 2010, 11:15 AM

Hi Chris, I'm so sorry for your struggle and your loss! It's just awful. I can't help but think of Moms that don't even want to be Moms and then cannot understand why those who want babies so badly can't seem to get what they want. I get that the Lord works in mysterious ways, but sometimes those ways make no sense and just don't seem fair!

Hopefully we'll all be out of this board and onto due date boards soon!

Pebblesbuddy · #6 June 26th, 2010, 08:54 PM

Welcome! I am new here as well and on cycle #6 of trying to conceive our first. So far we are dealing with severe Endo but I had surgery well over a year ago so hopefully none of it has come back. I have an appt in August to hopefully get this thing moving along. I hope your stay is short

~Lynda~ · #7 June 29th, 2010, 05:53 PM

Hi there, and welcome to our group. doesn't matter if you have children, you can join us!!! we are happy to have you and totally understand your struggles. I am lynda and I have had 4, yes 4 miscarriages!!! it's been a long road and the dr's can't tell us why we are miscarrying. we are going to be doing IVF next cycle. I"m pretty excited, but so concerned we are going to spend the money and walk away with nothing! But I pray not! Jump right in and post away! ladies here are great!

hubshope · #8 July 28th, 2010, 06:17 AM

Oh Lynda, how frustrating. I hope your proceedure gets you your sticky BFP and a H&H nine months. A dear friend of mine just went for her 4th IUI yesterday (this time while on clomid) and if it doesn't work she's doing IVF next time.

You know, it just doesn't make sense to me why some women have to try so hard when there are others...it's so not fair.

I make a habit of praying for all women that are struggling to conceive...to have their struggles end soon in a precious, healthy baby.

Hubby and I are in the 2WW, but I don't have a good feeling. Maybe just 'cause of all the BFN's...I don't know. I'm only 3DPO so I'm mostly trying to keep my mind occupied.