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I thought even though my situation is different then yours this would probably be the best place to get some understanding. I am so SICK of people saying 'you're young you have time' and 'you have one so you know you can have more' Ok one I'm young yes. BUT I also have dissabilities and fertility problems and have a whopping 5-6 years to have ALL the children I will EVER want! I almost lost my daughter MANY times during my pregnancy and it will get worse the older I get. My dr said actually he reccomends me not getting pregnant after the age of 25! I'll be 21 in September! As for me already having a daughter, yes I have her and I also lost her twin and almost lost her while I was pregnant, and pcos gets worse with age also.
Now another thing I hear ALL the time that drives me nuts 'It's not in God's timing/will' This one really upsets me, because it's essentially saying that it's in God's will that all theese babyy killers and child rapers have children but he won't see fit to give ME another one?! How freaking rude is that to insinuate? That I am not a good enough mother to have another child while there are drug dealers who throw their newborn babies in TRASHcans!
Anyway sorry for ranting! I belong to another mommy message board and the girls have just been saying this crap soooo much today I needed to vent.
I am sorry that things are so frustrating right now. Don't apologize for needing to get things off your chest! Everyone needs to rant sometimes, and this is the place to do it! People really do say stupid things sometimes, don't they? When you are ready to have a baby/or another baby, you just are. There is no explanantion for it, and when you aren't able to some days it hard to say sane. There are so many people that have NO clue what we all fee like in which case they should probably not say anything at all. I understand what you are saying about all of these other people have children--drug addicts (who will toss their kids in a trash can), killers...the list could go on and on. One of my friends is pregnant and when she told me that she was ttc she said she was going to just see what happens--two months later...pregnant. In that same conversation she told me that she had an abortion not too long ago and I think---what's wrong with me? So sorry to go on and on, but I understand what you are saying. Just try to stay positive! And hopefully you will see that bfp soon and know that you can always rant if you need to!
aww hun sorry u r feeling bad sometimes i don't think people know what to say and often make a mistake without meaning to. it will happen hun just keep your sprits up and remember u have all us that understand and r here for u while u need us