[Servilia]

I hate feeling like this.. but there's a couple we know and the wife has told me they plan to start TTC in September.. just watch her get pregnant right away while I've been slaving away since November! Am I horrible for feeling this way?

[-hopeful-]

Nope. We were one of the first in our group of friends to get married. And we are the only ones trying that I know of. One of my very good friends got pregnant in January this year. (They weren't even trying, its was a oops baby, she was very upset when she found out, and here I am KILLING myself month after month to make it happen) It was hard for me to hear she was expecting, and she doesn't know that we are trying. I just got an invite to the baby shower and I am ashamed to say I don't know if I'll be able to go and watch her open all those adorable baby clothes. I'm worried I'll break down right in the middle of her shower in front of everyone. How bad of a friend does that make me? When I heard she was expecting I thought for sure I would be pregnant by the time she had her baby....well that is NOT happening.

AND you're not horrible for feeling that way! It's hard to be happy for those around you when you want the same things and it comes so easily for them while you're working so hard. But my very best friend told me that when I DO get pregnant I'm going to appreciate it soooo much more because of what I went through to get there.

[TheOnlyPink]

you are definitely not horrible for feeling that way. My friend was ttc at the same time as me, but she got pregnant the first month she actually had sex (she was wanting for a long time but her bf kept making excuses) so we dont talk about ttc anymore.
Its so hard seeing people get pg so quickly while we just have to keep trying. But i honestly believe that we will be better mothers because we want our babies so much more.

[wishfulgal]

I have a friend who has been TTC for about as long as I have and we talk about it alot. I will be really happy for her when she does get pregnant (which I expect to be before me b/c we really have just about no chance with DH's sperm count how it is.)I will really miss being able to relate to her about all of this TTC stuff but at the same time I don't want BOTH of us to be eternally TTC, ya know? She's put in her time, I want her to move on and be blessed with a little one.
I have a cousin who has been hinting that they will be TTC soon and it will be a little harder for me to swallow if she winds up pregnant right away. It's stupid....like in my mind everyone has to "earn" the right to be pregnant or something. I wish I could be normal and not feel that way, but I do.