[lindanena]

Hi ladies or if any gentleman if this forum,

Just wondering how your significant other is reacting to this stage? I vent to my husband about my feelings about us not getting pregnant yet compared to our friends and our age, and how long we have been trying etc, and he reacts in such a calm manner, he sais it will be okay and does not express any concerns, he sais it will happen eventually. He does express feeling agrevated when his guy friends ask him what is the deal with the baby making magic.
I wonder sometimes if he is as concerned as I am, but he is just trying to keep it together for the both of us, or if it also affecting him.
What about yours?

[snsgirl336]

I think most guys just process things differently than we as women do. I think they are totally effected by all the stress and disappointment that comes with ttc and feel a lot of what we feel, but like my dh tells me- guys just tend to dwell on it less.

For the first year and a half of our ttc journey, my dh was super supportive and always positive. "It'll happen when it's meant to", "At least we're having fun trying" etc. Once we started seeing a dr about ttc, he still remained super upbeat and kept me going. When we did get a bfp, he would have shouted it from the rooftops if he could have! Once we neared the 3 year mark and had to cope with the dd of the baby we mc'ed, he got a little down, but he had a way of staying positive for me. He hs had his down moments lately, but even when he does, he still finds a way to cheer me up about it all. I really admire his strength about it!

[TheOnlyPink]

my husband is a tower of strength for me. he says he finds it easier to be chilled out about it, because he only deals with it every two weeks (ovulation and my af arriving) so its not as full on for him, while i take my temp every morning, check cm, etc.
When i get upset about it he is able to reassure me and talk sense into me! he does get upset about it when af comes, but he is always able to keep me going.

i agree with chris, its alot easier for them to detatch themselves from it, so it keeps them calm. they dont see the time going as easily as we do.

[lindanena]

I agree it is a great source of strength to have your significant other! I would have long quit the process, but my hubby motivates me to see it as something as part of the journey and to stay hopeful. I guess I try not to drag the issue, because like you mentioned they can also go through their own down moments.
Definately man, have a different magic in how to deal with their emotions. Funny my hubby also sais "at least we have fun trying" Thanks ladies for sharing!

[SavaAngel]

My hubby was always more upbeat and "it will happen when the time is right" until it we had all the tests and were approaching the 2 yr mark. Then he agreed maybe we needed to see a specialist. But he was still so much more positive than I was. And when I tested and saw a second line he kept telling me not to get my hopes up too high just in case. Luckily that wasn't necessary, but I have begun to feel that this TTC journey was one I needed to take with God.

[LuvMySon5]

My hubby is the EXACT OPPOSITE of all that's been mentioned here. lol. I'm the one reassuring him. We have a fertility doctor, but there were a few things we wanted to do/try before going on clomid, also, DH still needs to get his SA done. But every month when I get a BFN he says, "See, I can't have kids." And every month I say, "How could you possibly know that? If/when the doctor tells us that, then I will believe it." It's crazy. lol. His logic is, his uncle is sterile so he must be too!! I'm the one that's positive. I keep telling him, it will happen, just be patient. We will have a baby, one way or another. If I have to take shots, pills, etc...I will. If we have to do IUI or IVF we will. It will be ok. We will have a baby, eventually. Every month, it's the same thing. lol. Bless his heart. Ya gotta love him!!

[lindanena]

Awww LuvMyson, that is nice of you to be such a support for both of you
You'r such a strong woman

[~Lynda~]

mine is the same as yours. he just keeps saying, "it'll happen hun"... drives me nuts!

[HappyRRT]

I think most guys think of TTC in a different way than we do. This is our first cycle TTC and even though we haven't even begun yet (AF is here) I am already worried that it will take a long time. DH, on the other hand, is so relaxed about it and keeps telling me it'll happen. And you're right, Linda, having fun while we try is what matters and what makes this journey bearable!