[domestikatie]

Yesterday I was watching these videos: Increase Your Chances (HILARIOUS, and every conversation Husbear and i have had about TTC was acted out, haha!) and I decided to actually look and see how close a fertility specialist was to us way out here in WV.
I saw that there was one in Roanoke, about an hour and a half away, and started looking around on their website. They had a contact form, so I submitted an email just kind of stating that we've been actively trying for 8 months and nothing has happened yet, and we just moved and don't have a doctor or an OB here or anything and we're feeling sort of lost and need some advice.
The doctor wrote me an email back saying to call his assistant to set up an appointment with him to talk, and then his assistant called me.
She was AMAZING. She answered all of my questions thoroughly and was so sweet and helpful. And she told me that the doctor, who usually practices in Jacksonville, FL comes to that office in Virginia once or twice a month, and he would love to consult with me THIS FRIDAY. I got all of the details and talked to my mother-in-law about what she thinks, and she said GO!
I had to talk it over with Husbear first, and his initial reaction was not positive. He thinks it's too soon, and told me that he thinks the stress I put myself through every day is what's actually keeping us from getting pregnant. I cried, we yelled, it was bad. But he finally acknowledged that maybe if I saw a doctor, the stress would be eased and I would feel better. He also called his brother, a doctor who just went through 2 years of ttc, and his brother said "even if it is all in her head, that doesn't change the fact that she's still not pregnant. and she has billions of years of evolution occuring in her body right now- her body was made to have kids since the beginning of time. That is one trait that never went away- woman want kids. you think we want kids badly, try being them- we'll NEVER understand how strongly they feel this. so let her go, if she think it will ease her mind." Husbear told me he hadn't ever looked at it that way, and it helped him try to understand. WHEW. I think all I need is to hear from a doctor that everything is fine and it IS all in my head. And if it's not, then I'm one step closer to getting it fixed.
He did say that given the info I gave about my background that it sounds like it's a very easy fix, if any.
So, I go in for my consult on Friday- that includes a vaginal sonogram to check for cysts or polyps, and he'll give me an order form for an s/a for Husbear that he can use at the lab here in town to get tested. YAY!
I feel so amazing about this...but I sure wish it hadn't caused that rager of a fight with my husband.

[~*Jackie*~]

I'm sorry your hubby wasn't on board right away, but it sounds like you worked it all out. How exciting that they can get you in for a consult so fast!!! There's nothing wrong with at least checking out the basics now, ya know?

Good luck and tell us all about it on Friday!!

[snsgirl336]

Wow! Talk about something that was meant to happen! That's awesome that you are able to get in and see someone who can hopefully put your mind at ease or at least get the ball rolling on getting you pregnant... though I am sorry it took an arguement with your DH. Sometimes that happens with me and my DH- he gets so stubborn and only sees one side of things that we get into what we call a "heated" argument.

Anyway, that's awesome and I can't wait to hear how everything goes Friday! BTW- Any chance I can borrow your BIL to come tell that stuff to my DH?!?!? I wonder if my DH gets that sometimes! LOL

[~Lynda~]

hey hun, when i broached getting medical assistance it did not go well either! i think they get nervous about feeling like they failed. so walk softly! but it will get better!! now that you've planted the seed, he will think about it and he will come around. good luck with your appt!

[wishfulgal]

Those videos are funny and so true !

I'm glad you and your DH are on the same page now. I went to the doctor (just my OB/GYN not a specialist) after just 6 cycles when we were TTC #1. I just wanted to know if everything was ok. I actually miraculously got pregnant a couple of weeks later before we did too much testing, but I was still glad I had gone when I did. Be sure and update us about your appointment!

[SavaAngel]

I am sorry that you had an argument about it with DH but I think you are going in the right direction. A lot of times, our DH's are worried it isn't happening because of them. My DH was afraid of that and we were dealing with secondary infertility. Good luck tomorrow!