[DreamChaser]

So it was one of those days again - the one where I have more than one person ask me - so is there a baby yet (none of these people know we are trying!). First it was before service started at church and one of the ladies I have known for years there - goes "So is there a baby yet?" - when I tell her no as I am crying on the inside - she is like "Don't you want any babies?" Then as the service started another family I know comes in with their new granddaughter - whose mom was one of my Junior Bridesmaids and sits behind me (which of course sends me into my thoughts of why her and not me - she is just getting out of High School!) and as the sermon starts grandma wispers in my ear "Are you pregnant yet" - ouch is that a knife in my heart? After the service ends I am sitting outside with my mom - we have to wait for DH since he plays on the worship team and has to play in the next service. The same friend of mine (grandma) comes over and says I am praying - Donna needs lots of babies and proceeds to tell me that she sees me having twin daughters (I joking say is that a prediction?). After she leaves I say to my mom - can I go crawl under a rock now? And my mom says "Oh Donna quit being so sensitive" - I am in tears now - it is like thanks for the support mom - how do I expect her to understand - she got pregnant with her first three months into her marriage - she has got great-grandkids anyway.

Sorry so long - I just had to vent with those who understand.

[alexa]

I'm sorry Donna! I think we all have those days. Even our friends that know we are trying seem to keep asking and it is just upsetting. It's like don't you think we will tell you when we are pregnant? People that don't have to "try," have no real idea how hard it can be physically and emotionally.

Anyway, I just wanted to say I understand and I'm sorry. Here a some special hugs from me to you.

[jlk]

Sometimes I wish people would just keep their mouths shut. That just figures people would be asking you all on one day! Maybe this is a sign and since it happened at church, maybe it is good and you are pregnant!

[BobbiC]

I'm so sorry Donna. People just don't know when to keep quiet. No one really knows how hard it is to try until you have been through it.

[rinty68]

Im sorry you have such a cra**y day Donna

I often feel like people are trying to upset me by what they say.
I still havent got over the fact that my friend found she was pg
last xmas eve, the day i got a BFN after being a wk late for AF
Then xmas morn as my friend celebrated her 2nd preg i got AF
And was crying all day. The friend in question is no longer my friend.
She is 7mths along with her 2nd child and is having a boy.
She had abused her body with party drugs and drink since day one.
It makes me sick to see her heavily pg and completely undeserved
and here we are, desparate to be mothers and we will all make terrific mums.
We have so much love to give and have yearned for these babies for a long time.
I am sure it will happen soon for you Donna.
My Mum was 35 when she had me and had tried for 10yrs.
She was actually going through the menopause when she conceived me!!

I would have faith in the clomid and im rooting for you!!

((((hugs))))

Sarah

[Blue Eyes 409]

Oh Donna I am so sorry I know how you feel. I had made the mistake of telling a few people that I was trying so they would ask me every month. It was so hard month after Month telling them NO. It was so hard on me. I hope that you get that BFP and can tell them YES I am pregnant!!!!

[LuvEmm]

I am so sorry you had a terrible day! It's hard when people are not understanding. We got comments all the time when we were ttc DD. We didn't tell anyone and this time everyone close to me knows. We got comments from my mom especially. It hurts. I don't have to explain why my body won't have kids easily. I now see that having my DD was such a huge miracle and I wonder now if it may never happen again.