[-hopeful-]

Well tomorrow is THE day. All of our testing is completed. I'm so nervous for tomorrow and what the doctor will say. I hope we have a plan of action and we can get started next cycle. Its tomorrow morning so I should have time to come on here and post before going into work.

[~Lynda~]

good luck hun and update as soon as you can!!!!

[snsgirl336]

Good luck! I hope that you leave your appointment with a great plan of action!!!

[-hopeful-]

the appt did not go as planned. after talking with the specialist , yes all of the tests are normal. he reviewed my surgery report from '07. i had a cyst removed then and that is when i found my endo. i'm upset, this whole time i have been thinking my endo was NOT THAT BAD well after reading the report he thinks its my main problem along with a possible luteal phase defect based on my charting. the luteal phase defect can be overcome with meds. but the surgery report also stated at that time that yes my tubes were open but my ovaries had shifted and were almost behind my uterus. and well if the tubes and the ovaries are not right next to each other there is no way that i'll get pregnant because the egg can't make it to the tube to be fertilized and implanted. i have a couple options. 1. have laproscopic surgery to find out where my anatomy IS at. 2. started meds and go with IUI. 3. go to IVF. after speaking with my DH and my parents last night we are opting with the surgery. i would rather know RIGHT NOW if my tubes are not where they need to be and doing IUI would be a total waste of time and money. if everything is where it needs to be then we will start with the IUI. i knew this would all be expensive but holy moly did i have sticker shock yesterday. IVF at 12-15,000 a pop. we are by no means made of money. DH and i decided last night that if the surgery says we have to do IVF we are basically almost going to give our condo away just so we can get the hell out of here and buy a house. we don't want to be stuck at our condo until were 30 draining our savings on IVF. my parents said they would help us financially to have a child. which i'm totally upset about and thrilled about at the same time. how can i let them give me that kind of money to have my child? i can't believe i made it through the appt yesterday as soon as we were out of there i broke down in the next room with the nurse. DH had to leave immediately to go back to work. then i had to go to work i was hysterical the entire way there. yesterday was a horrible day. i'm going to call today to have them start scheduling me for the surgery. i'm hoping it will be done early december they said they are about 3 weeks out. and then i'm looking at january starting IUI or IVF. forgot to mention DH wants to tell his parents this weekend whats going on cause only mine know right now and if he's going to have to be taking days off he wants to tell them....great add another person to the list that knows that i can't give my husband a baby. i'm thrilled.

for those of you that had IUI do you recommend it?

what about IVF? lynda i know you did IVF with your now pregnancy, did it happen for you on the first try?

why does having a baby have to be so expensive?! i cannot believe we dont get more money from our insurance company that is soooo disappointing.


if you made it this far ladies congrats and thanks for listening to me.

[~*Jackie*~]

Aww, I'm so sorry you didn't get the best news yesterday. I can say, that I can relate almost entirely. I had surgery August 2009, and it was found that my endometriosis is so extensive that it can't be removed from most areas because it would adversely affect TTC with scar tissue, etc. I was also devastated, as I laid in the recovery room, and heard my DH say that my surgeon say that if we wanted to get pregnant, we'd need to move on to IVF and fast. During the surgery, they were able to free up my ovaries a bit though by removing some endo that was tying them tightly to some other part of my body in there. (I so don't remember anymore). So you definitely have some hope if they find that your anatomy is a little out of place, they very well may be able to put it back to where they are and that be the answer to your prayers!

Now, I did opt to do one IUI because I didn't want to skip that step completely and jump to IVF. Unfortunately, that didn't work out, and we did an IVF cycle in March 2010. Everything went perfectly, and our embryos were perfect, but after transferring 2, but neither of them stuck with me. My RE still only gives us a 30% shot at getting pregnant with IVF, and like an 8% shot of getting pregnant naturally? So our situations may be a bit different, but I think you are making the right decision in getting that surgery. I really think if they can fix up your tube positioning, if that's the problem, you can have a great chance of getting pregnant all naturally!

[Sassy9679]

I'm so sorry. I can totally feel your frustration. I will keep you and DH in my prayers. Just trying to have a baby can be so expensive. Hugs to you!!

[-hopeful-]

thanks ladies, i'm waiting for a call back from by OBGYN she referred me to this specialist. want to get her opinion on the surgery. i'll keep you posted.

[missy123]

I don't have any words of wisdom, Just wanted to offer you a hug and say I understand how frustrating and heartbreaking TTC can be... I have heard of lots of girls getting pregnant after the surgery, I hope you are one of them!

[Servilia]

I also don't have any advice, but I agree I would have the surgery first before doing an IUI. I mean that way at least you know whether there's hope for the IUI to work. That is really sweet for your parents to offer help. And I know how you feel about DH's parents knowing.. I feel like a total failure in their eyes even though they haven't given me reason to think that way.
I'm sorry it didn't go as planned but I hope that surgery really helps! If your ovaries AREN'T where they're supposed to be, can they move them back into position during the surgery?

I'll be thinking of you

[snsgirl336]

I'm sorry that the appointment didn't go so well and that you got bombarded with that crappy news. Big Hugs! Please keep us posted on how things are progressing. Hopefully they'll be able to get in there, get everything in a little better shape and you'll be sharing that BFP soon!