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March 26th, 2005, 05:59 PM
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ON another mommy board this lady posted to me telling me she could GUARANTEE because of my age and stuff that I'd be pregnant soon. Maybe it's just me but that upsets me. She brought AGE into it and then proceeded to tell me that SHE knew although my drs can't even tell me for certain. She also told me she understood what I was going through.

I posted back and told her OBVIOUSLY she had no clue what I was going through because otherwise she wouldn't have posted anything as insensitive as that imo. Now I'm being screamed at by a host who's telling me I'm rude and should shut up and stop lying about my ttc!!

Now do you think I'was right in getting upset at this girl?
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March 26th, 2005, 06:53 PM
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i beleive you had the right to get upset.that woman aint in your shoes and she does not know what you r going through cause she aint you.if i over step my boundaries i am sorry.

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March 26th, 2005, 07:01 PM
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Oh no I completely agree I just needed to see how it looked from an outsider's perspective. Thank you very much for you insight
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March 26th, 2005, 07:48 PM
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I think you are entirely justified in your feelings towards that person. People think they are being helpful and kind and they don't realize that they are being so insensitive. Unless someone has been in those shoes--they just don't know! Sorry you had to deal with someone like that!
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March 26th, 2005, 08:48 PM
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I agree! There is a decorum!! You don't tell a woman who has lost her child or children 'It's ok you can have more don't be sad' NO YOU DON'T this is THAT kind of situation where people need to USE THEIR HEADS!
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March 27th, 2005, 01:40 AM
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Hi Hun,
I think the other girls are right if they haven't been in the same situation then they shouldn't comment.

I hope you are ok hun, ((((((big hugs)))))))


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March 27th, 2005, 01:50 AM
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i'm sure hun she didn't mean to hurt u some people just don't know what to say when others r upset. not that i'm say u was wrong to reply as u did because those r your feelings and everyone should have a right to express themselves. we know how u feel hun and u will be pg very soon and i'm not saying that cause of your aqe i'm saying that because i have a strong feeling u will be very soon.
we all have days when we r more easier to upset than others don't feel bad and concertrate on getting that bfp of yours to show up cause we all know its waiting to appear

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March 27th, 2005, 06:02 PM
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Melissa-- you were exercising your right to get upset. I don't think that other person meant to upset you, but they did and you have a right to get mad about it. Like you said, no one has ever been in another person's shoes before, so it is REALLY imporatant not to make assumptions about other people. Don't feel bad about what you said or how you felt. Feelings come from the heart, and you cannot pretend they are not there. You are ok, girl!!!
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