[jmdietrich23]

Hi All,

I am new to this, but lately I have been feeling a little down so I am looking for all the support that I can. My husband and I have been TTC since November of 2010 with no luck. Each month I try to pretend like it doesn't bother me, but inside I feel like screaming!! It's especially difficult when I am SURROUNDED by pregnant people. Which makes it worse is that of course more than half of the women I know who are pregnant were either not trying or didn't want to get pregnant. I try to remain positive and tell myself that when the time is right it will happen, but it is so much easier said than done. And even though I know people are just trying to help, if I hear "Stop thinking about it so much" or "As soon as you stop trying, you will get pregnant" I think I will go crazy!! Lol Does anyone else every feel completely helpless sometimes? What do you do to perk yourself up?

[lmjm79]

Hi! I am also new to the site... I have been ttc since March of '10. I have a little boy who will be 4 in a few weeks and I have had two miscarriages since him. My first was in May of '09 and the second was January of '11. With my son and the first m/c I was not ttc; they were surprises. So when we started ttc, I assumed it would happen immediately! To my surprise, it took until December (our 10th month of trying) and since the m/c in January, we started ttc again right away. Of course, no luck since then... Everything you're feeling is completely normal. Even though I have a son, I still look at some of my friends who are pg with #2 and I feel a little jealous. Last month, after driving myself and my husband crazy for so long, I decided to be forceful with my docs and ask for testing to make sure everything is okay. All the tests have come back okay so far, but I have an appt with a specialist on Friday. The next step is to do a HSG, which I hear is pretty painful. Have you had any testing done? I know it's so hard to have faith each month, yet not be "too hopeful". I am believing for you that you'll have a beautiful, healthy pregnancy/baby!

[SweetSaraB]

Hi. I'm also a newbie. My hubby and I have been trying for #2 for almost 9 months now with no luck. I know how you are feeling. My last AF was late by 6 days which is unusual for me; so I couldn't help but get my hopes up. It was quite a disappointment when it started. I am in my early 30's and have hypothyroidism as well as some other health issues that had required major abdominal surgery. With all of that going "against" me there are a lot of times I just think about "giving up". Hang in there. GL Hopefully we'll both be posting about our success soon!

[jmdietrich23]

Thanks to both of you for your responses. Although I hate hearing that other people are also struggling, it's nice to know that I am not alone. Since I posted this, I have 4 additional friends/family members who pregnant and although I am so happy for them, it makes it that much harder to not get down. I haven't had any testing done, when I went to my doc for my yearly check up earlier this year, she wanted me to give myself time to actually try naturally before we began testing, etc. My hubby and I talked tonight and if we are not pregnant next month then we are going to begin looking into the testing and what not. I think part of me is scared that there is going to be something wrong so I haven't gone back yet. My cycles also vary from 27-32 days so that gets frustrated as well since I am never sure if I am late or not. My sister has also been trying for a couple years now with no luck and she is now going through fertility treatments. She has been through all of this as well and from what any doctor can tell her, there isn't anything wrong with her or him, she just isn't getting pregnant for some reason. Again, I appreciate the encouraging words and hope that we all find ourselves on a different message board very soon!!