[nicolelm908]

Everyone seems to be pregnant now a days. Every since I've been trying many of my family and friends have been popping up pregnant and most of them weren't even trying. I want to be happy for them I really do, but it's like they keep flanting it in my face. I act like I'm happy but I really want to yell at them and tell them to shut up. I know it sounds wrong and I feel really bad for think like this, but I can't help it. Anyone else have this problem? How do you deal with it?

[stowers2k3]

There is nothing wrong with that at all!!! I have felt that way a lot in the past 6 months! I think it was the worst the week I mc and then had to go to my sil baby shower and have my mil scrutinize me for not having a child yet!
When I reach my frustration level I step back from ttc for a week. If I don't I prolly would kill someone at 1 time or another!

[lizm75]

It does seem so unfair. I usually just try to remind myself it is not anyone else's fault that I haven't gotten pregnant... and that it is unfair to project jealousy onto somebody when they are in a very exciting time. I try to put myself in their shoes and think about how I would want the people around me to be truly happy, not faking it. People can tell when you fake it, trust me. When I do become pregnant I won't then feel guilty that I may have been less than supportive of others good fortune. That's how I deal with the inclination to be envious.

[mbrown31683]

Hi! I have been TTC for 4 months, I just wanted to check this forum out. I started TTC in June and my SIL told me in August she was goint to start trying(she already has a one year old, this will be my first). Sure enough, she announced her pregnancy in Sept. It was hard for me, I felt like it was MY turn, but I just have to keep telling myself that everyone is different and whatever is best for me and my DH will happen. I know it is tough, it seems like as soon as you start TTC all the sudden EVERYONE is pregnant, and it is hard not to be jealous! I think it is normal to be jealous, just try to not let it get to you cause that is the last thing we need right now is extra stress! Just know that there are many others in your boat and we are all here to help support you!

Okay, I know EXACTLY how you feel.

Me and dh lost our twins. We tried for three years and nothing. We went to countless docs who all said everything was okay. I remember his neice, who at the time was about 17 years old, announced she was pregnant and didn't know who the father was. I was devestated. I kept thinking, why not us? Why are the un-deserving people able to conceive.

Then me and my best friend decided to try together. That was another bust. After her first month of trying, she was successful. Now my best friend is my heart and I was truly happy for her but man did that make me feel horrible. After a couple of conversations I realized how happy she was. And it didn't matter how long she had tried and that I wasn't getting pregnant. All that mattered was that she was happy and getting something that she wanted just as much as I wanted it.

FINALLY, after 3 years of trying and one month of clomid, charting, temping and opk's, we got our BFP a month after my best friend had her baby.

So the point of my story is, yes I am finally pregnant and happy. But it took me 3 long years to get this baby. I went through many friends, family and un-deserving people being successful and I know how you feel.

BELEIVE ME WHEN I TELL YOU - YOUR TIME WILL COME. And when it does, you'll realize that nothing else really matters.

I know that feeling, we are on cycle 11 and starting clomid. I have 2 friends pg, and my brothers gf is pg. My Dhs best friends sister is pg and none were TTC. I am so jelous because one gets the Christmas baby I wanted the other gets the May baby I wanted. Its like a kick in the gut when I see them, but I think to myself that I DONT want to share the spotlight with everyone so they have their time now and I will get mine(with no one else)!!