[lizm75]

I have not remembered to temp for two days, I'm just not motivated to try this month. I'm on clomid and even forgot to take it on the last day so I took it the next morning. I feel like trying or not it is going to happen when it feels like happening. I feel completely out of control of the situation, like nothing I do is going to change the outcome. I guess I am just not into giving a crap this month!

[mbrown31683]

I think everyone needs that once and a while. It really drains you trying month after month. The worst part is you feel like you have tried so hard, but failed, when really you did all YOU could. I completely understand how you feel! I don't blame you for taking it easy this month!

[diznynurse]

I haven't temped accurately for the last 2 cycles. But after the holidays and when next cycle starts my butt is gonna hit ttc hard! lol I say that now, wait till cd1 comes, I'll probably have a different tune to sing! lol

[Blue Eyes 409]

I know what you mean it is so hard Month after month not getting the BFP. When I felt like that we just took a month off and went back at it the next month. I hope that you get to feeling better

BTW I got my BFP on Clomid!

[~Sandy~]

Lizzy my best advice to you right now is, dont kick yourself.....the temping thing isnt the end of the world....ALSO GIVE IN TO THE LOST MOTIVATION....I fought that for so so so long, I kept saying "I have to do it this month" "This has to be it" ...positive all the time..... When i lost motivation finally I really lost motivation lol...I had a month where I did not care whether I bd'ed or not.......The next month when AF came I thought "well, Sandy it will happen, may take a while but its coming because you deserve it"......See after I gave up kinda and didnt care I hit a whole new outlook on the TTC thing....it doesnt consume me anymore,,,I have faith that it will happen...You know the saying "you have to hit rock bottom before coming up".....Well once TTC takes this long that is exactly what you have to do......It becomes stressful and unfun after a while and after month after month of not getting it, or getting it and losing it....heck i havent even tested in 2 months.....i did use opk's this month because Brian bought them for me lol.....

I hope this doesnt come accross as a give up its not worht it post kwim..... Because it is very very worth it.....the minute you feel or know that a baby is there is magical and makes you tingly.....but wait till you actually see that baby.....worth more than anything in the world....I am just giving you my .02 lol....dont give up girly.....but on the way give in

[dzine21]

I gave up last cycle, when I joined in over here. I was in no way trying or preventing TTC. The holidays were/are hard with my SIL getting every second of attention and loving it for being pg. My outlook now is-it'll happen when it happens. I haven't temped in days and I feel better about it. I'll start to temp around when I think I may O. After finding out that all the tests came back normal, it just sets me back even further into my I don't care mood. I'm hoping luck is sent your way soon.

[~Sandy~]

You know those people who say relax and it will happen??? I used to HATE them and I mean HATE HATE HATE them with a burning passion....I used ot be like who are you and what do you know.....you know nothing...I mean I really did not like them.....But now I have hit that point..and I am understanding what they really mean by the phrase "relax and it will happen"....not relax like dont try at all but relax and realize it is out of yoru hands in the end....even when you bd on all the right days and take your meds or whatever, it is still up to that little miracle....you still have no control whatsoever....Its a point that takes a while to realize....Now I will never ever tell anyone "relax and it will happen", but I have come to understand what it means (at least to me lol)....